When good people turn terrible

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I had started to think about something a few minutes ago. About a year ago, I remember meeting someone who I thought was a nice person in high school. He was, but he turned out to be very mean after high school. I think that was because of peer pressure.

Just today, I discovered that I could get in touch with another person I had heard of. He is very similar to the first gentleman I met, only I don't think he has become mean because of peer pressure.

Though I don't know why that person is so mean, it is very sad that those people who have such promising futures let them go down the drain because of simple things they should know better about.

Do any of you feel the same way?

I can sort of relate. I used to know this guy in middle and high school that I used to hang out with a lot. Looking back he was probably an aspie but of course I hadn't heard of it back then (I graduated in 1990.) I kept in touch with him for a year or two after I graduated but he started getting kinda weird even for me...I could tell he was having issues and being me with my own issues I couldn't really handle that, so we lost touch.

Anyway I tracked him down a couple years ago...he actually lives about 20 minutes from me. When I emailed him he basically emailed me back telling me to go away. Kinda sad really, he was one of the few RL people I could really relate too.

It happens alot.

But alot of the time people are rotten to behin with.

Peer pressure doesn't help. This hot brainy guy from school turned into a pot head loser here, and it happens alot.

I personally would have more sympathy for people if it wasn't for the absolute torture people put me through in life.

We must remember no matter We are Humans that is what makes Us a Individuals and We must be Ourselves no matter if We are Good or Bad in the End.

This is Living Life for Who We are it is Up to Us that We can Help Each other that is what truly matters for Us All in the End.

Free will, and circumstances. Perhaps the power to fall into dissolution is the price of the power to improve.

I went through the same thing, when I was in College. I've met two Students, who've appeared to be pretty decent people, both at different times. The first Student was a Man. He was 35, at the time, and he appeared to have HFA. His Cockney Accent turned me on, and I've developed a crush on him, even though he was Married. I didn't find out, until after the crush had developed. The two of us were having our little Classroom Affair, without his Wife knowing. Than his true colours began to show. He didn't see me as the Intelligent Thinker that I am. After we've watched a video on Down Syndrome, he had the nerve to ask if I thought the afflicted man in the Video was handsome. Than, he started putting down my Telephone Skills, saying that they stink. And than he started "Giving me insight" on my own Spectrum Disorder to "Give me more of an understanding" of myself, when that was the last Bloody thing that I've required. I've already had enough knoledge about my Case, without him telling me about my Symptoms. Than he presumed that I didn't have a good enough eye, to pick out his friend, as a baby, in the pictures that we were looking at. Just as I've started to speak up, he had the nerve to ask, "It's pretty hard for you to pick him out, isn't it?" I've yelled, "NO, IT'S NOT HARD FOR ME TO PICK HIM OUT, AND IF YOU DON'T WAKE UP AND REALIZE HOW BRIGHT I AM, THAN OUR FRIENDSHIP IS OVER!"

The other Student was a Woman, or should I call her a Girl. She seemed to be very Mature, at first. She was a very classy dresser, and she appeared to have Manners. Man, was I ever wrong. It was an Early April Evening. We were riding in her Car, at top speed. She was driving around, looking for the Special Olympics Bowling Team. We walked into Willobrook Lanes, than she dragged me into a Night Club, to see if the Team was there. Than as she was driving me home, at top speed, she was making fun of my Accent. It's a good thing that we did Video Interviews in that Programme. If I didn't know that I have a Cockney Accent, I would have tought she was being funny, and I would have been flashing the Peace-Sign, saying, "Drug the Prudes!" Instead, I've decided that anybody who makes fun of any London Accent is no friend of mine, because my Speech Patterns are a combination of two possible London venaculars.

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I've seen it happen before my eyes twice in my life. It's like a switch going from ON to OFF in their heads, and then suddenly this nice, polite person becomes an as*hole. I think it has to do with feeling threatened, and when humans feel threatened, that engages the activation syndrome (the "fight or flight" response). In both cases, they chose "fight." It took some time before I realized what I'd done to set them off. In one case, it was a few badly chosen words; in the other, the words were well-chosen, but delivered at an inopportune time.

We live on the Planet of the Naked Apes. Sometimes it seems funny to me; other times, it seems tragic.

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It seems as if you all have different opinions about this.

I'd be worried if everybody here had the exact same opinion. At least this way you can tell people are thinking for themselves.

I'm sure you all have experienced that at some point.

I'll only say this.. People are rarely what they seem.
Mellow

I believe that.

some times mean people are false and you only think they are nice.
sometimes nice people do mean things because they are hurt
sometimes people with aspergers do things that seem logical and everyone thinks that they are a mean person.

Why would you come to that conclusion?

I can usually see through the falseness of other people easily.

People react to the situations they're put in.
Maybe that person is only being mean to you for some reason, but is fine with everyone else they know. Maybe they're evil with all the people they're in touch with, but nice to you.
There are secret building blocks of reason gathered up inside their heads, you see. Invisible blocks to us, but blocks all the same.
Meeting up with someone once after a long time isn't long enough to determine whether they're good or evil these days, it doesn't work like that.
I like how everyone here puts the mean bit on the person being mean, as if it's solely their problem. It's a reaction to something. A reaction to the person they're speaking with - you. Maybe you've done something odd that doesn't sit well with them in your body language and they've decided that you're wierd so they're going to keep you at arm's length. Maybe they're not keen on revisiting their past, which you'd represent.
Stop externalising things!