Finding self-acceptance as Aspergian

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When I found out about my AS status (also Twice Exceptional, having Gifted status), I felt a tremendous sense of relief at first. Then for awhile, it was as if I was starting to deal with the reality of my condition: it was a lot to take in and also required some time to come to terms with it.

Nowadays, I'm actually learning to love my condition. The reasons are varied and complex, but I'll say this: being AS and Gifted has been a positive thing for me in some ways.

Sure, it has been painful and full of difficult lessons. One of my biggest reasons for personal insecurity was the fact I felt like I was so far behind everyone else when it came to social skills and personal progress.

But nowadays, I'm accepting of my AS and Gifted status. I know I am very intelligent, creative, wise and insightful. I love the fact I'm strong, resourceful and learning to love myself more everyday. I don't think I'd be where I am otherwise without these characteristics. I am letting go of past hurts and forgiving myself for feeling, amazingly, as if I was bad because I didn't fit into the way the world does things. BS. The world is not always a nice place and generally doesn't tolerate diversity anyway. Maybe it was the world's inability to accept differences or impatience with those who are different that was the problem. There is no set way of doing things in this world.

For those reasons, I'm proud to be AS. A lot of great, amazing people have been AS. I should celebrate the fact I am different, not that I fit into the mould of NT.

What do other people think? Have other people found that self-acceptance and self-esteem with AS?

Welcome to WP!

You definitely have more self esteem than I do (I can't speak for anyone else though).

I've had a very similar experience. I'm Gifted as well (and I seem to be bringing that up a lot lately), but I thought the social skills thing just came with the territory, and were more pronounced in my case. But finding out about Asperger's (even though I have no diagnosis) has caused me to embrace more of my quirks and boosted my self-esteem. Lately, I've even felt comfortable with asking people to clarify their tone of voice, a problem that's always embarrassed me before.

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He believes in God his own way, he's just making an example of something.

This guy says really great stuff IMO, you need to be more familiar with his work if you're going to take his hit against "christian God" seriously.

There's many flaws in the history of Christianity. Remember the killing of millions of people for the sake of faith?

Buddhists don't do that, neither do Shamans in the amazon who eats mushrooms and see God.