Losing track of people

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In my life, I'm HORRID at keeping in touch with people. I HATE the Phone. (though if we had internets back then it may have been a very different story). It tended to be like, if I saw people at like, say, school, I'd only be in contact with them as long as I attended the same school. I changed schools a couple of times so each time I did so, I lost track of the people in the other school.

There was one girl who was a really good friend in Kindergarten and Grade 1. I sorta lost track of her after Grade 2, although there was one time we went skating together while I was at the other school.

Everybody else, I didn't phone (and they didn't call me, but I never phoned them anyway to begin with) and got out of touch.

It wasn't deliberate. I just didn't like talking on the phone.

I've seen some posts that basically detailed how other people with AS also lost touch with others. So it's interesting that I'm not the only one.

Thing is, when High School rolled around, a lot of the kids I considered at least friendly (if not actual friends--I was wary) grew farther apart from me, including the old friend from childhood. She started hanging out with two girls that were cold as ice and distant. And a boy. And given my experience with boys, I didn't dare stick around that.

I HATE it when people feel they have to choose between different people, i.e. can haz one, but then can not has the other one. What a bunch of BS.

For me, the whole point of having friends/acquaintances is to share common interests with. Once people move away, that becomes impossible to do so I don't bother keeping in touch. I don't see the point of keeping in touch because just talking is pointless.

My problem with staying in touch with people is that I just don't think about it. I get to doing my own thing and the next thing I know, months have gone by and then they don't want to talk to me anymore because they think I've been ignoring them. Really, though, I've just been distracted.

I tend to run out of things to say to people when I don't see them in person for a long time. Sometimes I have trouble recognizing them again if it's been a long time since I've seen them. It's just not realistic to expect a lifetime continuity of rapport with everyone you've ever known. It's not deliberate to cut people off, but it's just the circumstance of it. I'd like to think I could go back, but at best I'm starting from zero.

I hate the telephone too and I forget about people and lose them. I don't know if that's particular to Asperger's. I've seen articles about remembering to keep in touch, even to put it on the calendar e.g. 'phone so-and-so'.