What do you term as an Acquatince?

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Not sure if I'm right but I assume people I chat with at work and only see at work= Acquantince and hanging out doing social activites together=friend? (Is that right?)

That's how I see it.

I agree with your definitions. However, others may not use the same definitions, which has caused confusion for me in the past. For example, I may socialize with co-workers at work, yet I still just consider them "co-workers" since we have no contact outside of the workplace. My confusion occurs when they refer to us as "friends" even though we have no contact outside work. How can we be friends if the only time we communicate is when we're all paid to be there? I think some (many?) people use the term "friend" quite liberally, whereas I tend to categorize people more specifically (though I do allow for overlap).

An "acquaintance" is someone I know who I spend time with, but it's little more than a superficial friendship.

I don't trust an acquaintance with deep personal information about me, nor would I expect one to be someone I could count on in a time of need.

"Friendship" is like an onion....layers. The deeper you go, the more trust is involved as well as intimacy with personal details.

Many people never get past a layer or two, and in a crisis, they are quickly gone. Your real friends are the people who stand by your side during the worst of times. The rest are little more than acquaintances.

It's experience,
friends are by choice.
acquaintances have association.
To me it seems to be a judgment call.
A stranger judges you and you have no idea.
An acquaintance judges you but you don't know why.
A friend judges you and let's you know it with an explanation.
Of course this is all on theory, not that I judge people,
discerning differences have a different motive,
acquaintances have something in common,
friends have more in common,
Care, and time.
To me, friends are people who have agreed to the permission of judgment, and regardless of the verdict, it's not a one-way motive. Acquaintances share thoughts, while friends share feelings. Acquaintances can only assume what friends already know by experience and common beliefs. Truth is, camaraderie is found in both, acquaintances will work by you, whereas a friend will work with you.

Yes, that's correct.

But on the same note, I've had great acquaintances, and some crappy friends.

But as an Aspie, I don't make very many of either, and keep fewer still!

^ agreed
IRL = 0
online = 2

How I see it;
Acquaintances are people with whom a forced or situational association exists, I don't have anymore than a trivial emotional investment in them and I don't go out of my way to be with them or to avoid them and I don't place them in a position where trust is a factor.
Friendly Acquaintances are people with whom a forced or situational association exists, but I actually seem to like them more than a random stranger or acquaintance and they seem to like me. I allow them small amounts of trust on a trial basis, I expect them to do what's in their best interest.
Friends are people who's association is desired, they seem to like me a lot and they tolerate my quirkiness in much larger doses; I'm never quite sure why they like me but they do. I do things for them and they seem genuinely appreciative and even return the favors without prompting and they actually have earned a fair amount of trust from me. I can usually maintain about 3 friends at a time.
Real Friends are those who have gone above and beyond on the trust scale and are tested and proven there. They will help me in situations at personal cost and are few and far between. Most NTs have 5 real friends, I'm not sure but don't think I have anybody in that category presently; one or two at the most in the past.

Currently I've had to move my wife down to the Friendly Acquaintances category, that hurt a lot. It's much easier for me to move people down than move people up.

This is an interesting topic. I find that trying to place people into these categories can be hard. I have had people that I felt were acquaintances, to be considering me as a friend. It always amazed me, because my feelings towards them were very superficial. And then, I have felt that people were good friends, only to find that they had the most casual of feelings towards me. I currently have one good friend, and two friendly acquaintances, one of who thinks I am a good friend when I am not.

You pretty much got it right. Acquaintances are those you talk to or get along with at places such as work or school environments but you never really see each other outside of those places while a friend is someone you're much closer to and usually spend time with outside of those environments.

mom used to tell me when I was a kid that I didn't have friends, I had acquaintances.

Thanks now that I understand the difference I understand my past coworkers were acquantinces not friends thanks.

Everyone I know is an acquaintance.

Classmates, people online who I don't know enough about to consider a full-blown friend.

Pretty much anyone who is a potential friend. Technically anyone that you might encounter. I suppose I would term my martial arts club people as acquaintances. Or friends only for that context. Last Thurs a woman was trying to get everyone to go down the pub after. I declined. When she listens to my instructions e.g. about her footwork instead of just going ‘yeah, yeah’ I might be more inclined (not really I'm an antisocial )

One of the thing I learned is it is ok not to know is someone is you friend immediately, because people don't become friends overnight usually.

Pretty much I have my two friends, everyone else is just people who a may encounter.