Does anyone else hate the holidays/weekens/vacation time?

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I hate vacation time, the holidays, and most weekends. I am pestered continously by people who see me working on my dissertation all the time and say to me, "don't you have a life? Why don't you go to the beach? Why don't you come out clubbing with us." The problem is that I enjoy working on my dissertation a lot more than being in their company but there is no way for me to say this to them directly. I want to say, "Hey, if you could hold a deep and intelligent conversation for a while, maybe I might go out with you, but since you can't, I am not going to waste my precious time." Most people bore me because they are not intelligent enough for me. And I can't stand holidays and such because I am expected to stop working and hang out with such folks.

I have developed an exit strategy where I will sometimes either say I have a paper to submit in a few days or I have to do research in some other place that will require traveling. It's the only way I can escape and do what I want to do.

^^ Hmmm, I believe this is indeedy very interesting. Perhaps you may perhaps very gently inform the individuals that you enjoy working very much and perhaps would not enjoy the activity that they have requested for you. ^^ Perhaps also you may wish to apologise just in case for causing any upset. ^^ I certainly believe they would perhaps understand and would not wish to force you to complete an activity you would not wish to complete. I am very sorry if this is silly of me however.

I have lazy friends who are smart but don't choose to be but may have aspergers yet I still talk to them even if they seem dumb, and my best friend can't even read but he's like a brother to me. I guess it's just because I have mild aspergers as apposed to full blown meaning that I am really intelligent, like to learn and like to be alone, but I have better social skills as apposeed to someone with fullblown aspies syndrome . I do have major stress issues . I enjoy the company of a friend more than being alone and I think you should work towards that as well.

I don't live to work, so I do enjoy time off for the weekends, but I'm not fickle. I can take my two days anytime during the week.

I hold little regard for holidays and am happy to come into work on those days.

I see work as a way to do the things I'd rather do, so I especially value my vacation time.

I rarely celebrate organized holidays (though I'm not above taking convenient advantage of the rare, worthwhile sale that may be marketed to "celebrate" one ).

However, I do like vacations because they provide an opportunity to travel and/or get caught up on my special interests. I'm not a fan of mindless entertainment, but sitting in the shade with a cold ice tea and an ebook and some classical music can be a great way to unwind.

Perhaps you just have a different idea of fun than the people you're around? As long as you don't get too burnt out, it sounds like your dissertation may just be a practical special interest.

I hate holidays as well. All you do is pretend to be happy, exchange gifts w/ no meaning (I hate materialism & only learned how to ask for things recently b/c I have little to no desire to get stuff & HATE being given things! It's embarrassing and few people (besides those I live w/ get me stuff I like & I am usually given so much clothing that I could vomit b/c I DON'T NEED IT!) give me stuff I actually need/like. Donate it please stop buying me stuff! I don't want to sound hypocritical, but I don't like being given stuff. On top of that holidays= "perfect time to gossip about other people my relatives work w/ at my HS" (teachers & students) . Shut up, get lives (focus on something besides bashing other people for being eccentric or having lives), & if you can't loosen up (this may sound unethical but they should try actually drinking b/c their stiffness makes me (AN AUTIE!) uncomfortable! In general I know you should probably not advise drinking, but if you met them you'd see its an exception.

But in my case I can handle some conversation that would count as unintelligent (but it really depends, ex. anything explaining perverse phrases is fine by me/helps me "translate" NT phraseology & body language I don't get ).

Vacations, it depends on where I am going, with whom (do I like/tolerate them, etc. or not) & if the location is crowded (hated 1st few trips to Disney b/c they were beyond crowded & last one was surprisingly sparse). I'll take any opportunity to relax. But, if traditional ways of relaxing w/ people don't work for you don't do them. That's why I avoid people (except a few) in general.

I like weekends though. Break time from stress b/c of dealing w/ NT's & other chatter boxes 24 hrs. a day. (No offense to NT's, I just need a break from human contact every few days.)

My family doesn't even bother with the pretend to be happy part. I really should film some of the fights some time, they're kind of amusing.

Personally I like vacation time and weekends because I get to work on my own stuff during. Projects start to nag me too much at work when I go too long without a break.

I'm glad you enjoy working. I hate weekends and holidays because they're boring and lonely, and everything's shut.

The only reason I hate vacations is because every time our family goes on one, my Mom has to complain non-stop the entire time. It's always everything from "You kids need to stop fighting!" to "I get tired of holding everyone's things and not enjoying myself" (and I always offer to hold stuff and she refuses, go figure). And by the time we get home my Mom is always red in the face and talking about how we'll never go on a vacation again because we're all just horrible brats. Yet we still go when we have the money..... I guess my Mom just enjoys having a reason to be unhappy.

Now once I can afford to go on vacation by myself, I might start enjoying vacations again.

I dont have much to do on my days off except sleep or go online.I prefer to work or go to school as a result.I have no real social life.

Holidays I do celebrate

Thanksgiving (Canada)
Rememberance Day (Canada-November 11)
Birthdays (family)
Christmas
New Years
Easter
4-20
A few days off in summer for famiy visits
Canada Day (July 1)
Victoria Day (Canada-May long weekend)
Labour Day (Canada)
Halloween

When I went to Turkey, I slept through most of the day and stayed out most of the night (which is what I do at home, except that at home I am online, and in Turkey I was at the bar). My dad kept saying I was wasting the time by sleeping it away. That's such a stupid argument, because I don't sleep any more than anyone else, I just sleep at a different time.

Something that annoys me about holidays (vacations) with my family is that if one of them is being horrible to me, and I get upset, I get told off for "ruining the holiday". THEY ruin the holiday for me by even being there.

I'm only worried when I don't have a job and it's vacation.. then I feel guilty if I want to spend money on a trip or something when I don't have any income..

My favorite part of the holidays...Christmas in particular...are the lights around that time of the year. The Christmas lights make me happy

I just got back from a vacation...it was very stressful getting prepared for it, because it snuck up on me at the last minute, and I felt really swamped under a whole bunch of work and I felt like it was foolhardy for us to go off and leave for a few days when we had so many things to do. The vacation ended up being really pleasant for the most part.

I hate them because they're a change from the normal schedule. Weekends aren't as bad as vacations or holidays if I add some sense of a schedule to them, and the same goes for very organized itinerary on trips. I don't like changes from the normal though, or not knowing what I'm doing or where I'm going. Birthdays, holidays, and stuff, my parents always complain about how my brother and I ruin them every year. That certainly doesn't help me like them anymore. I still don't know how we ruin them.

I've used the OP's exit strategy before though. It's a really good one. No one can refute it usually either.

I love them, and look forward to them.