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Shebakoby
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30 Sep 2009, 6:14 pm

I think part of my problem was I might have been -too- friendly. At least really early on.

So can we safely say that 'be a friend' doesn't mean squat if they don't like you to begin with?



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01 Oct 2009, 9:14 am

There is always a way to get someone to like you and be your friend. Must never give up. Gotta find something they are interested in though and get them to talk to you about it.

I too have the same problem it seems. I talk and talk to some people on the internet and they give short messages back more or less sounding like they want me to shut up or leave them alone without really saying it. I hope one day they will see I don't mean to be this way. I just wish they would listen to me and be a friend. I don't know that any of them like me enough to be a friend.



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01 Oct 2009, 10:08 am

Shebakoby wrote:
I think part of my problem was I might have been -too- friendly. At least really early on.

So can we safely say that 'be a friend' doesn't mean squat if they don't like you to begin with?


Depends on your definition of being too friendly is, and when is the time to be a friend. Friendship is not a one-sided affair; if you are treating someone overtly nicely in the hope of starting a friendship, then your efforts may largely go in vain as opposed to being a friend to someone who is also a friend to you.


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01 Oct 2009, 11:42 am

makuranososhi wrote:
Shebakoby wrote:
I think part of my problem was I might have been -too- friendly. At least really early on.

So can we safely say that 'be a friend' doesn't mean squat if they don't like you to begin with?


Depends on your definition of being too friendly is, and when is the time to be a friend. Friendship is not a one-sided affair; if you are treating someone overtly nicely in the hope of starting a friendship, then your efforts may largely go in vain as opposed to being a friend to someone who is also a friend to you.


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Well in this case it would have to be too 'touchy-feely', especially during elementary school.