having my day put out by friend dropping in

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Hi there,
Just wondering if anyone else feels this way, or has any suggestions to help me.
A friend just dropped in this morning, I didn't know she was coming.
By the time she left I was stressed, all peopled out, and we were ment to go to my sons play group this morning about an hour after she left.
I got ready, showered in time and all, but I just could not face seeing people at the playgroup. My son was happy with watching a dvd instead, but I just feel stupid that I went into overload/shut down mode.....ahhhh
Thanks for reading my rant.

Don't feel bad, that happens to me as well. If someone were to drop in, I would get overwhelmed, too, even if I like the person. That also happens when a friend calls, and I stay on the telephone too long. I have started telling people never to just drop in, always call first. It saves a lot of grief. Those that cannot honor this, are not my friends.

This rarely happens to me but I do have a neighbor who is diagnosed with BPD and is on disability who pops in. I'm lucky that we can be direct with each other. I don't shut her out but she knows and respects that I'm a dyed in the wool introvert and really need my alone time. I also understand that she's home alone all day and she is an extrovert and needs to have contact.

Hi hartzofspace,
Thanks for your reply, its nice to know that Im not alone with this. Don't feel like such an overreacting idiot. I will have to tell her, I just can't handle it. I am a very strict routine person.


Hi Aimless,
I have only known her for a short amount of time, and only became friends after our young boys met in the local park and got along so well. She is very out going, and I am not.

Thanks again for your replys.

I have the same thing. When i'm not prepared to socialize and have to, i get very tense, even as much as sweating and stuff. My sister ( with whom i'm very close) has just joined the same uni as me, and when i unexpectedly see her and have to talk it's annoying. And she's my sister!