Why are females more tolerant of 'wierd' than males?

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I've noticed something odd about my social interactions through the years, primarily childhood. And that is, by and large, girls are far more tolerant of 'weird' than boys. I have no idea why that is. At least, in my case.

Funny part is, there was a tomboy in that one school I went to, in the same grade as my younger sister (3.5 years younger). Readily accepted by and played with the boys (though that girl was the Principal's daughter. Hmmm.)

In later years I was like "I like things like cars and Transformers what more could they want?"

So you're male and have found that women accept you more readily than males? Do I understand you correctly?

I am female and have often found that men accept me more readily... not as love interest but as friend. I am still a tomboy.

I'm not sure women are more tolerant. I do think we are less likely to "act out" our vicious feelings.

No I am female and found females are more tolerant of weird than males. The only males that accept me in any way are online.

Yeah, more in the back-stabbing, malicious gossip, excluding sort of way.

Your experience is very different from mine then. You must have interests that are more compatable with other women's interests? I think my athleticism and frank communication style disconcerts many women... I know a lot of them find me intimidating even when I'm trying to be as accomodating as possible.

Frustrating as hell...

I do find I get on well with ranch women and farm women. Decisive, out-spoken, self-sufficient types.

I (male) find that females are the only sex i can relate to or talk to in a social setting. Its like guys pick up very quickly that i am weird and males do not seem to have any tolerance for difference. I think females pick up on my weirdness fairly quickly but seem to have much more tolerance and acceptance. Females label me as gay quite often though i am straight as a die. I guess part of the reason they are more tolerant of me is that they do not see me as any sort of threat or feel like they have to be on show.

No, not really, and that is what is really strange. Aside stuffed animals and dolls...when I was a child anyway. I think that within the past few years most things that I had in common with females sorta fell by the wayside now. But they are still more visibly tolerant than males. I dunno if this means some of them were smiling in my face while they stabbed me in the back. I could pick out sincerity fairly well, having been used to identifying mocking tones of voice.

I typically get along better with men than with women.

Sometimes, that's not true, females often outcast the different and the weird, especially with rumors and ignoring people that they don't like. I don't know if tomboy is really a weird thing in society anymore though, at least not as much.

Well I know some of them do. But my experience was all the males outcast the different and the weird (me) whereas among the girls there were actually some tolerant souls who put up with my weirdness with cheerfulness and aplomb.

It's mixed bag for me.

On the one hand, women can be very kind. They often mother me when I say or do something naive or out of place. Other times they can be extremely cruel spreading malicious gossip about me, backstabbing and all that good stuff.

Men, on the other hand, are usually very tolerant of my weirdness. Other than the few bullies I had in high school,they were friendly and easy to talk to--and even then I would take being slammed into a locker over malicious gossip any day. At least then, I knew which people to watch out for, which halls to avoid, and eventually, how to take evasive action.Much more straight forward.

Maybe this is just a "the grass is greener" mood talking, but sometimes I think guys have it easier in this aspect. That is, working things out physically and being able to tease each other without taking it personally seems to be a much nicer way to go through life than all the intrigue and changing alliances that make up women's lives

Steriotypes for the win!

I guess girls are sensitive more often, but sometimes they can be at least as bad as males.
Perhaps girls are just more subtle.

With females, it can vary. In general certain women tend to more acceptant of "weirdness" because they are more likely to have sympathy and feel sorry for the person in turn they want to help the person. While men are less likely have sympathy for others. But trust me a persons sympathys is NOT a way to gain a real friend. The person may be nice but niceness only goes so far. On the otherhand females can be very gossipy and malicious. They will talk behind there friends back frequently like, if so and so person is being annoying. Females tend to take things offensives more personally and hold grudges longer. While I've notices males are more likely to let things go. If you listen to the girls talking around you, you'll often notice theres always this or that drama going on.

From personal experiance, males tend to be more tolerant of weirdness in my comminication style. Around other girls, I have to normalize it so I often come across as more dry and boring. I dont have that expressive personality that a lot of girls have. What makes me not dry and boring is my social quirks that occur I communicate naturally.

i agree with the first post. In highschool the other boys bully you and make your life miserable, while the girls leave you alone and tolerate you. I have seen that girls are not so cruel as boys. They are less agressive to their peers, not the case with boys.

Girls tolerate weird in boys, boys tolerate weird in girls.

My life was made an abject misery by girls when I was one myself. My son's life is now being made miserable by boys.

Initially I was going to make a joke of the thread and say, "women put up with weird from men, because we have no choice, you guys are strange..." but thinking about it, I reckon it's got more to do with sexual perspective. There's nothing as merciless as a group of women who find one of their member to be "other." Think of what happens when a murder of ravens capture a kitten... they surround and peck it, not to death, but blind, ragged and helpless. Then they fly off and let it bleed.

That's women for you. If you're the weird woman.

How men behave to each other is a mystery to me. I suspect that it, also, is not pretty.