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ebec11
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18 Sep 2009, 9:57 pm

Whenever I have any free time anymore, I find myself wanting to be alone and try to relax instead of being with my friends (which is often stressful) I feel guilty for doing this, and it's been going on for a long time. I need to be a better friend, I got such great friends and I shouldn't waste them. There are some people that are my friends' friends that I don't get along with and that also makes it hard for me to hang out with my friends because I really don't like these other people.
I don't know why I do this, I have friends that are wonderful - something not a lot of people here at WP have - and I don't spend time with them like I should.
What do you think?



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18 Sep 2009, 10:42 pm

I think I don't understand why friendship has to be so fraught with shoulds and oughts. But then, that's probably why I don't have that many friends.

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30 Sep 2009, 4:44 am

I think nerotypicals overrate friendship. Its important yes, but they take to an insane level. Socializing is almost like heroin for them lol



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06 Oct 2009, 5:55 pm

ha. i guess it's just how they function, like all connected and such. hmm. idk. the real friends i have are also super busy. it works out, i guess. when there were people around i didn't like so much, i usually delved into an activity or withdrew. i know what you mean -- it's not easy.



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06 Oct 2009, 10:47 pm

I don't see any point in garden variety socializing. I just wanna flop next to someone in a pile and just relax.



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07 Oct 2009, 2:25 pm

I know just what you mean. I find it very difficult to make time to spend with other people. It takes up too much time and energy, when I could be investing my time and energy in things I enjoy.



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07 Oct 2009, 11:30 pm

If they pressure yout to go out to concerts, the shopping centre etc. then they probably aren't worth having as friends anyway. If you don't like social situations then just don't get involved in them. It's hardly something to worry about, you prefer to be alone. So do most people on the autism spectrum.

Enjoy life the way you want to, not the way others want you to.

Besides, NT's get high of social situations, it's like drugs for them. We don't.