Anyone else hads an experience like this?

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I hasve three particular friends. Two I have known for 8 years, one of them for 16 years.

About two months ago, one of my few friends toild us she was an aspie. Another friend is being forced to take the test because the authorities thinks she's an Aspie. My very closest friend
like me saw things in the literatiure that screamed "This is me!" at her.

How many people have befriended people, only to later find that one or more oif them is also Aspie? I'm wondering if the fact we all react the same way if it might have drawn us together? Boidy language and knowing the rules of communication might set us apart from so-called "normal" people, but might draw us together because we DON'T react adversely to each other in that manner, and are all similar.

What do you think?

Julie

Much of being an Aspie is being introverted. Introverts tend to form friendship with other introverts. Because they relate to each other better.

That being said, I think most of my friends where probably not on the spectrum at all. So maybe my point here doesn't hold much value

This happened to me when I was in third/fourth grade. I befriended a girl who had Asperger's and we got along very well. At this point I was undiagnosed, but when I look back upon those times, I think that we got along so well because we were both Aspies. We didn't share teh same perseverations, but we were perfectly content to each do our own thing while we were together at each other's house. Unfortunately, she moved away right before fifth grade, so I was left without a friend.

This year, when I started ninth grade at a new school, I met a senior who also was an Aspie. This was right about when I was diagnosed with Asperger's. We both are obsessed with physics and science fiction books. So, we too got along very well.

So, I guess what I am trying to say is that the exact same thing has happened to me.

My friends have been mainly atypical in some way (geek, eccentric, physically disabled, foreign, mentally ill, etc.) but not mostly AS people, except those online friends that I met through AS sites. (My parents and husband are unofficial AS, pretty definitely, but that's genetics in one case and meeting online in the other case.)

I have one friend from college whom I tried to tell about AS when I discovered it, because I would always have described her (in terms of social and job-related peculiarities) as "like me, only moreso" ... and she basically freaked out at me and said maybe I had a problem but she didn't have any.

Maybe I went about it the wrong way ... as usual.

I have been around aspies since I was born, met more than 20 of them. while I have always been atracted to them and feel comfortable in their company, the conversations are very relaxed and everything, it has never been fun (with one exception), there´s always too much silence, too much mystery, you never really get to know them. None of them ever knew about AS.

My best friends have always been misfits, but not aspies.

Not like the guy above me I've been around NTs all my life as just classmates but I'm not type of person you'll see with much friends or any at all. So I wouldn't know.

I've diagnosed two friends over the internet. One was clear from the start, another was about as borderline as they come. Regardless, I'm happy to increase our ranks.

I went to a private school where I got harassed and tortured by everyone except this one girl (I got thrown out in 6th grade, so I hadn't seen her in a very long time) - anyway, a teacher at that school that I wrote to on and off told me that this girl's daughter was 'really, really smart, but really really shy' and I thought - ok - maybe I got along with this one person because she also was autistic - she was certianly weird and we got along . . .
So I emailed her and said 'I found out about having AS recently and it was just amazing to finally know . . .' etc - never said anything about her and her daughter - I was just hoping she would email me back and ask for more info . . .
Well, she did email me back and said 'Yeah - I got diagnosed with AS when my daughter did and then my son has more like HFA or regular autism . . .'
I was just floored . . .

Oh and this person that I was talking about - she said she had been thinking of emailing me to see if I had looked into having AS myself . . .

I strongly suspect one of my friends to be an aspie. He discovered AS after I did, without knowing I knew suspected me of it. Then when we talked about it later he even suspected himself (but I was more obvious).

In third grade, I was placed in a Gifted and Talented class filled with the smartest kids in the county (from varying school districts), most of which had some sort of issue--ADD/ADHD was rife, there was a kid with diabetes and one with a club foot, that sort of thing. Think of it as a class filled with nerds. We moved up through the years and while we changed teachers, the actual class--the group of kids in it--never changed, because the pool of kids in the program was so small that there was only one class, with kids pulled from several districts. I made about four good, close friends, whom I stuck with very happily for the duration of my time there.

Now, unfortunately for me, my family moved to a different state between fifth and sixth grades, so I didn't have contact with my old friends for a long time. About midway through sixth grade, when I was eleven, I was diagnosed with AS. About a year ago, a couple of my old friends contacted me, and lo and behold! Both of them had also been diagnosed with AS. I don't know about the other two, though.