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buryuntime
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06 Nov 2009, 12:13 am

How do you make friends if you do not attend school?

I have no idea where people go to stay with friends at either. There aren't any clubs here that you can go to outside of school, either.

Next step, approaching someone?

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Boston_MA
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06 Nov 2009, 8:27 am

1. find an interest based group that you like. for example, if you like playing computer games find a group that plays computer games. sharing an interest makes it much easier for you to find friends.



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06 Nov 2009, 12:00 pm

I disagree about the lack of clubs after college, I belong to four and just about all of my friends are members of one or more. I never had time for clubs in college.



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11 Nov 2009, 12:53 pm

I have found that in order to make friends and acquaintances you have to partake in a particular organization or activity and participate on a regular basis.

I have made friends and acquaintances through my activities in the local Democratic Party, my membership at the local UU church, and through other volunteer opportunities.

Strangely, I made my closest friends through work. This does depend on the work environment, some places are more condusive to friendships than others. Opportunities for intimacy and interpersonal contact in the workplace is what fosters this.

I guess I have a problem with making friends that are my own age. Most of the people that I have met through activities have been older than me. But I have been often told that once you get older, age doesn't matter in friendships. One of my closest friends in a 80 year old retired psychologist, we attend the same church and deeply enjoy classical music and the arts.

Lastly, remember that friendship does take time, it is something that doesn't happen overnight.



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12 Nov 2009, 11:43 pm

You might like to ask your friends/family/workmates about the groups and clubs that they belong to, and if you can join them.
It's foolproof! XD


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