How do you deal with a friend you haven't seen for awhile?

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My mom got some photos of my friend who's off in College Obviously I got emotional since I'm not in College etc. (yall know that story) and she asked me what if she came home for Christmas I said I wouldn't want to see her etc. (Sure what kind of friend I am etc. might come to mind) anyway it doesn't matter since I haven't seen her in 2 years and we aren't that close anyway (she's the social type boyfriend etc.) me with 0 friends no boyfriend etc.) and we don't do anything together. So how would you handle things if you were me and saw her. (Like I said the College upset issue I don't want to but the she's social and me not being social seems like it'd collide. (BTW I've known her since she was in Kindegarden but after the see movies,play with toys phase we grew apart she has an adult life etc. and like I said we don't socialize or anything.)

I apologize, I found it a little difficult to follow what you were saying in your thread.

If you are talking about seeing and spending time with a person that you haven't seen in years, I have been up that path a few times with friends from my past.

I have often learned the best thing to do is to go out to eat with them. It gives you a little time to converse about what is happening in your life. My biggest problem that I have here is that sometimes (esp if you haven't seen a person for years), there is so much to talk about with them, that when you go to see your friends, you feel like you have an agenda. You need to let the conversation be spotanious, and understand that you will always leave something out that you wanted to converse with that person about.

Lastly, after you meet up with your friend, let the friendship be spontanious. I have often had problems with contacting people obsessively after these meetings, and that has led to contention in a few relationships. Probably due to another person taking an interest in me. All I can say is have fun and take the situation for what it is.