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Ahaseurus2000
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14 Nov 2009, 4:21 am

I've realised I've developed a "one-way attachment" with a woman. I want there to be something between us, social / emotional interaction (friendship and more), but they don't reciprocate and I've realised they don't return my feelings and have no interest in me.

This is unhealthy.

I want to stop these feelings / this "attachment". How do I do this?



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14 Nov 2009, 8:23 am

Ahaseurus2000 wrote:
I've realised I've developed a "one-way attachment" with a woman. I want there to be something between us, social / emotional interaction (friendship and more), but they don't reciprocate and I've realised they don't return my feelings and have no interest in me.


What you are describing sounds like a crush, so if you really want to attract a woman, find a way to be her hero. The right woman will eventually respond to that.


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14 Nov 2009, 12:25 pm

Ahaseurus2000 wrote:
I've realised I've developed a "one-way attachment" with a woman. I want there to be something between us, social / emotional interaction (friendship and more), but they don't reciprocate and I've realised they don't return my feelings and have no interest in me.

This is unhealthy.

I want to stop these feelings / this "attachment". How do I do this?


I would say that the best way to end a crush is to get to know the person, but if you are sure that she doesn't even want to be friends, then I would avoid her and anything that reminds you of her for a while. When the obsessive thoughts start up, mentally give yourself a kick and force yourself to think about something else. The feelings will die down eventually.