Freezing in social situations

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Whenever I am in a social situation, even with family I tend to 'freeze'?

I think this is down the uncertainty of not knowing what is going to happen combined with a very inflexible lifestyle.

I get comments like
- relax
- you are very wooden
- you look scared to death

Every new situation causes the same problem. A new pub, restaurant becomes very difficult to handle along with new social situations. I can hold and maintain a conversation not a problem.

Does anyone else or a relation have the same problem and any suggestions as to how to overcome it?

Yes I too freeze in social situations-- my mind goes white like an empty TV screen. I get told to "relax" and "you looks so serious" all the time. I wish I had advice for you! You said you can hold and carry a conversation no problem-- doesn't that mean you're not totally frozen? Because most of the time I can't even find words in social situations. I have grown to prefer online contact because it is much easier to type without having the person/ people close and staring, making me freeze.

If you want to give it a whirl, feel free to try, but no idea it'll work.

If you pretend to be someone else, like, gee, I dunno, the 10th doctor(Not THAT big a stretch for me anyway), or Homer Simpson, Jack o'neill or Uther the Lightbringer or Arthas or...Or Zorro. I don't...care.*Sigh*

If you pretend to be someone you're not, okay, that's a bit weird, but the way you DO, will be different. For Uther I'd be acting pretty damn self-assured. Waltzing forward feeli'n strong. Homer? Happy, smily, easily annoyed, spazzy. Ten?....Both. Depends on the villain and time of minute.

Now usually, when you try and remember who you're impersonating, that can't be done as the same time as talking someone, but, say, I'm in school, waltzing forward, and I forget I'm Uther, and a lovely opposite-gender <3 comes by, I say "Hi!" with a broad, calm smile, instead of my own silence, head down, slight blush.


Pretend you're someone you want to "be", with a strong way of being, and just walk, stand or sit in that way. Then you'll lose track of what you're doing, but in the back of your mind, the speed at which you're walking, the position of your arms, legs and head, will still trigger that change in self-awareness. Thing is...Don't pick the wrong personality to infuse with your own :p