Having Messages Ignored

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Hello, Im new here. There's one thing to have your messages ignored because someone is busy, but they eventually come back to it. Idc if it takes a person 6 hrs or to to reply back to my messages, I just want them to reply. I really dont have any people that I talk to outside of school, I'm 18, and in high school and it really hard. I'm in IB program too. I have this one friend that i talk to all the time in school, but when it comes to text messaging, he never texts back. he only texts back to the stuff he wants to text back to. And I ask him why he doesnt text back and he tells me that he was sleeping or he wasnt near his phone. I believed him at first, but now it happens too much. I sent him a message this weekend twice and he didnt reply, and I went on facebook and saw that he sent a mobile post from his phone like 2 hours after I sent my message to his phone. So this means he's ignoring me.
I always have to text people, no one texts me...Its really hard, and I'm sick of trying to socialize because it never works

Yeah I hate this too but if I didn't ask anything in my message, I just assume that person had nothing to say about it. I'm the same way. Sometimes it can take me a few days to reply to a message when I'm not lazy so I give people some time to reply.

I understand what you're saying. I give people time to reply too....That's all you can do isn't it? But I'd be waiting literally a century or a millennium if I wanted these people to reply to me, and by that time the'd be dead.

So what I'm trying to say is that, my friend never replies at all....and its very annoying. Its not like he takes a day or 2 to reply. Id he doesnt reply back within 5 hours he's never gonna reply. It happens to me with everyone, and its annoying. what I asked people why they didnt reply, it seems like they are lying, and from what i said in my first post, he is lying.

I love texting because I hate getting stuck on the phone having a conversation that I don't want to have. A lot of people in my life hate texting though, so maybe that's all it is with your friend.

I don't like to admit it, but I'm doing this to a girl I know currently. It's a rather long story, but she's flaky and I generally am not in a mood to deal with her.

Sometimes I just don't have anything to say so I don't answer back. If I don't think their message requires a comment, I just don't say anything.

You should watch when you are expecting too much from your friends. Sometimes they are busy and they just don't have the time to answer all of your messages. Your friend will eventually start thinking of you as a pest and they won't want to be around you. I have made that mistake with friends in the past, and they ended up not wanting to be friends with me. If it is the case that they are ignoring you, then you should just move on and find somebody else to be friends with. Sometimes people don't show interests in being friends with you, that may seem unfair but that is the way life goes.

If you make demands like that, that makes it feel like a burden for people to talk to you.

I don't like using texting, I find it intrusive, just as I do the mobile (cell) phone. I use them sparingly as I value my personal space and quiet time, alone or with others.


My problem was with the landline phone.....I'd telephone someone, usually one particular cousin, and she was always too busy...she'd call my back.....never did......after days I'd call again...same story......

Once SHE suggeseted that she call in to visit, so I made arrangements to make her lunch etc, my partner stayed home to see her....she never turned up....not a phone call from landline or mobile......All I got was a recorded message that she couldn't answer the phone....


I was told that she behaved similarly to her mother, sisters, amd husband...also I think to her children.....yet when she wanted contact and was in trouble she couldn't get enough contact with me.


For years I wondered if I'd done something to offend her, asked her partner if I had ( as I couldn't ever get to speak to her to ask her ) he told me she was like that to everyone.


NOW I don't bother to call and I've not heard from her for a few years.....
I 've heard she is always contacting her NEW IN GROUP members.....

Granted I should have picked up the signs a lot sooner.

I also have been guilty of persuing " friendships" that were ALL ONE WAY.... only recently I realised that over a substantial part of my 62 years I'd assumed friendships when they didn't exist....and I was ALWAYS the one to contact...

NOW I feel embarrassed and stupid but knowing that I'm on the spectrum explains a lot to me and I can see life in these areas with some PERSPECTIVE.

Due to ignorance, and what others would have perceived as insensitivity on my behalf, I was often used and my naivity abused.

Telling you this so that it might help you view your situation in a few different ways.

If I were you I'd now back off but I know that is much easier said than done!