I lose interest in some internet friends...

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This makes me feel terrible. I had one, who I literally emailed 12 emails a day, for over a year. Now I've lost our common obsession, she has too. We've sort of moved into different directions, and I don't really desire to chat with her much. . I used to love her like a meatspace best friend, but not anymore. I feel so guilty.
I seem to lose interest in some internet friends a lot. They easily go from buddy to annoying. That or they lose interest in me. It kills me. I love having internet acquaintances, but I haven't really made any close friends.
Is this normal, because people change? I have another internet friend I've known since I was 14. I really, really, REALLY don't want us to ever stop being friends. That would break my heart. I'm so afraid that after we go off to college, and I move to America, we'll lose touch. . He's in England. We might meet in real life (meatspace), I hope it works out.
Do you think we will? And is this constant shift in friends normal? How can you tell if one will be a lifelong friend? It makes me feel so like...flaky.

I've been thinking about something similar lately, actually. I think when I first meet a person it's exciting and there are always things to talk about, but after a certain stage they just start becoming...well, boring. I've made a few friends that have "stood the test of time", but there are quite a few that I was fond of and then slowly lost interest. My friend in Sweden is a good example, though I've been working to try to keep talking to her because I don't want to lose a good friendship (especially if I'm supposed to go visit her in the summer...).

I don't know if this is "normal" or even an AS thing, as I don't consider myself normal and I'm still uncertain about having Asperger's, but it makes sense, in a way. Things can get boring after a while. And then I feel bad because, like you said, it makes you feel flaky. ><

I also can't tell if it will work out or not. I think it's pretty rare for nearly anyone to have a friend that they keep for their whole life, or maybe I'm just being cynical because of recent friendships of mine falling to pieces. :/

I do sincerely hope that you are able to keep your friend, though. Losing people can be tough. ):

(Also, I like the term "meatspace". xD)

same here, not just on the net either. I tend to be friends with someone that I happen to spend a lot of time with... for the time of a project or common interest or whatever.

Some people are just great and for them I do my best to make the relationship work, those are the ones that stay in my life longest. maybe even a lifetime.

If you feel guilty about getting bored of someone, then maybe it is wort the wile to work om te relationship. If you tell them what perticular behavior annoys you, they might change. If they don't want to change or feel offended... the friendship probably isn't woth it and will fade after your suggetions. If they are real friends they will want to work on it and try to change.

One of my oldest friends is starting a new life at the moment; he's an actor and is starting to become very good and is getting booked. That leaves him with less time for his old friends like me. Too bad for me; the relationship is changing, maybe it will even fade and die. I love him so I don't blame him. If we can spend time together in the future; great! If not; oh well... new times will bring new friends for the both of us.

good luck to you.