How can I make a few friends online?

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I am feeling lonesome all of the time, I'm stuck at home, and I would like to have someone to communicate with. What I am asking for is some advice/direction on how to get started with making a friend or two online (here or anywhere). Please?

All I can really say is this: If you find out, please let me know.

why dont you two start talking to each other

Well, there is several things you can do. You just have to find the way that you feel suits you best and what you feel most comfortable with

Here on WP, you can find threads and thereby people who share your interests
Talk about your interests and see if you can find someone to share this in common
Or simply chat around this very active forum and let people get to know you or see others talk around and grab someone you feel you like to talk to further...

You can enter this thread to get more ideas

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt111954.html

Or enter this thread if you like instant messengers

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt103857.html

If not on WP then you can google your interests and see if there is some kind of community around it

There are lots of Asperger groups on Facebook.

It takes a bit to set up your profile initially but it's well worth it.

Also as the previous poster suggested there are heaps of forums on different hobbies and interests, on various websites.

Again on Facebook, there a lot of group and fan sites devoted to almost any interest or topic you could think of.

I don't want to be difficult, but I really hate Facebook. The frequent invitations to this, that, and the other really put me off. I don't want a walrus for my virtual zoo. I don't have a virtual zoo, cafe, farm, or anything like that, and I don't want one, and I'm sick of getting invited to get them. The only real reason I even have a Facebook is because it's a requirement for having a Xanga blog now. It wasn't when I started my blog, but for some reason now it is.

I also tried the IRC chat, but there wasn't as much acceptance and friendliness as I was led to believe there would be. It was awfully disappointing.

Most of us are here because we're lonely. Have you sent anybody a pm? I've sent a few, and most people are nice about it.

You are being difficult,

only kidding,

but you can Ignore all applications I think, there is a setting to do that. You can Ignore all applications from one FB friend, or all applications.

The good thing about the other groups is I have come across other forums or online communities through it, that I wouldn't have thought of Googling. Particularly for anyone interested in art, there's a lot of people posting their art in various groups.

Sigh, I have these fears and communication problems... I'm pretty amazed as to how people can have 10 or 20 friends on MSN while day after day, I am left with no one to talk to. It makes me feel like a bad person! I am here because I am lonely, but let me put this straight: Forums bore and frustrate the crap outta me! I don't know about Facebook... I don't know what to do...

I know what you mean. I have spoken to a few people online but usually after a while you run out of conversation and because it's online people normally make less effort.
I have no interest in joining facebook either. I can't stand those sorts of sites.

I have the same problem. What have you done so far to try to make friends?

http://omegle.com/ - You can sometimes meet interesting people there. Or just PM me or anyone else on this board. I bet at least most of the people here have similar kind of problems. I agree that chatting sites, things like IRC or Facebook are full of douchebags but hey, no one said it would be easy to find a friend.

[rant] I guess it's not easy to find a friend. I chatted with a couple of people on MSN, but I felt like I didn't do it right... I don't like MSN because you never know when someone will stop replying! Sometimes, conversations will go unfinished without a simple good bye or something telling me that they have to go do something! Makes me want to uninstall MSN, or worse, take my computer and throw it out of my window because some people probably think I am rude when I'm the one who doesn't leave in the middle of the conversation! RAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRGH!! ! Next time, I'll be asking for Skype addresses! No need to be a coward online, right? [/rant]

Omegle? Too anonymous for me and people always disconnect suddenly.

But I think talking to a couple of users on MSN was a good start, right?

Hmm.. see for me it's kinda the opposite.. talking to people in real-time can be daunting. I think I'm usually more comfortable on forums, especially forums like this that are active and there are pretty quick responses to things, but where I'm still able to wait to say things until I actually have something to say, and take my time to try to get the wording right.

Have you tried Second Life? That's more like real life in that you like "walk around" and "bump into people" but you can join groups, and meet people in areas that are about things that you're into, and have profiles and stuff, plus there are classes and support groups and stuff.. there are even some Asperger's and autism places. I used to be on SL all the time.. I haven't been on much lately.. largely because of the problem I mentioned with real-time conversation.. but it's an option, anyway.

If you're a gamer then decent MMO game can be pretty good platform for making friends, I think, provided the community is a good match. It's been a long, long time since I've played it, but Puzzle Pirates is free and had a friendly and surprisingly mature player-base (don't be fooled by the childish visuals) last time I looked. The way it's designed encourages players to rely on each other and form groups, and the gameplay itself is casual and easy to pick up. For me, at least, interacting within the framework of a game can be a good ice breaker, where talking is a necessary part of play.

Or, just keep posting and interacting here on the forum, as xalepax said. Gradually you'll become known and come to know others, and at some point someone might decide they want to get to know you better, or vice versa. Part of me is hoping I might eventually make a friend or two here as well, but I'd rather let it happen naturally over time than actively seek it out.

It might not be your thing, but dating sites can sometimes work. okcupid.com is free and i've met some people there, and indeed in real life from there too. There doesn't seem to be many (at least out and proud) aspies on it, however

I would love to talk to you, you don't seem as a bad person believe you me If you want my skype is: lukas-grajauskas or you could write to me here