I hate being so socially awkward

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I went to a recording studio about a possible internship and met the staff there today. I was nervous and everything like I always am so I would slur my words when they asked me a question and they were like 'what did you say? sounded like you said this.. haha'. They joked with me a lot which was fine, but I can't always tell when people are joking or not and sometimes that gets me into trouble when people are serious and I don't catch it; so I always tend to take things seriously to stay on the safe side which I hate because its so hard for me to loosen up like I want to with people. They were all really nice and everything but I know they probably think I'm a weirdo or some druggie now from the way I was acting. : / Sorry, just had a weird day today.

It's alright! i know what you mean!! I have those days every day!

I slur my words too when I'm really nervous and sometimes stutter a little, but when I am relaxed it's a different story, so the key for me is to get myself out of my own head. If I'm too introspective for too long and then try to have a conversation, the result is usually embarrassment. Don't beat yourself up over it because that only makes it worse. Just begin again.

We can all be nervous and shy when meeting new people or a going for job interview or whatever. Just be yourself and do not think too much what people may think of you. They may well think you are weird by the way you act and talk. But stuff them if they feel that way. It is really hard being misunderstood in a cruel, cold world.

Don't worry about it for now! I mumble when talking sometimes. It's my ears that can hear better than most people, so I mumble because I can hear it, but they can't and say, "What?"

I can empathise a lot with this. I always find I'm extremely shy and introverted when it comes to social situations in general, but I'm gradually getting better. Still, pushing past that drains spoons pretty quickly, and I end up feeling the need to scurry off to somewhere quiet and alone for a while, to recharge. Interviews are definitely among the hardest, so I feel for you in that respect. I'm dreading having to jobhunt when I graduate. My current employer is aspie, which is brilliant, since she doesn't mind me being shy/quiet/etc a lot. But I'll have to leave my job here when I move.. Eep!

Its hard, I know. Believe me, I seem to have two default settings: I either get all hyper and talk a lot and kinda fast and am oblivious to those cues that people aren't interested or have somewhere to be (note to self: cut back on caffeine consumption); or else I tend to get VERY quiet. Still trying to find that balance and still learning about cues, I just look at myself in social situations as a "work in progress" and try not to get too hung up about it. And am very thankful that my teens and 20s are behind me.

I hear ya buddy. It kind of feels like a don't ever have any real control of the situation, and that my influence is extremely limited. I just have to do my best and hope things go okay.

You sound just like me. I tend to stutter a lot when I get nervous which is pretty much when I talk to anyone. I also tend to move in an erratic kind of fashion when I am with other people. Basically, put me in a crowd and I degenerate into a total social ret*d. Funny thing is though - at home, by myself, I am smooth as silk. I can do things in a coordinated fashion and move much more gracefully when I am not around other people.

I have always been like this.

I totally understand where you're coming from. I think awkwardness has done much harm in relations with the opposite sex.