What is appropriate and inappropriate to say and do?

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What is appropriate and inappropriate to do with females that are friends? I have a female friend in college that is 22 and she has autism. What kind of stuff is appropriate and inappropriate to say and do with female friends? I said some things that made her uncomfortable and I hope she is still my friend. I really liked her as a friend and she was my first true female friend. I miss her a lot as a friend. Other females when I was in grade school were very dishonest with me and said they were my friend but weren't really my friends. She is very honest and always tells me the truth about how she feels.

Don't do what my friend just did & have his ex whose an aspie indirectly ask me to join them in a threesome...

What is OK to ask female friends for? Is it OK to ask female friends to hold hands, hug, kiss, and for pictures?

People draw the line differently. To use myself as example. Im female and married. And I have other male friends and have held their hand and hugged them. Ive been "cuddling" up against my male friends while watching a movie in the sofa, and emailed them holiday pictures and things, but if someone asked me for a kiss I would draw the line.

Close male friends I tend to treat as brothers, sort of.

It is good that other people on Wrong Planet can help me socially.

Just my opinion, here...

A hug? More often than not, perfectly ok.

Holding hands? From what I understand, tends to have a more romantic implication. That said, however, one of my favourite people and I spent a summer working together and holding hands. It was re-assuring, and between my relationship status at the time (taken) and her orientation, there was no confusion as to intent between us.

Kiss? Not so much. In my estimation, a kiss given freely is worth much more than a kiss given on demand.

Pictures? Unclear; are you asking for pictures of them, or taking pictures with them? Are these typical photos, or something risque? Not enough information to answer here. Generally speaking, asking them to be in a picture with you or asking for a picture for the purpose of memory/keepsake is not an issue.


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What do you mean by risque?

Risque: sexual/sensual, provocative.


M.

So what if the pictures are Risque?

Ummm... generally speaking, soliciting 'risque' pictures from those who are only friends is not advisable. Just my opinion, but I can't see any justification for it, or where it would be appropriate at all.


M.

What kind of people is it advisable to ask for risque pictures from?

That's beyond my scope to answer.

If you want pornography, there are options aplenty on the internet. Same with pin-up girls and other pictures. Otherwise, I would think that such risque shots would be within the context of a dating, romantic, or sexual relationship.


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