Once you get friends how do you get them to go home?

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Does anyone else have this problem? Once I make a friend and they start hanging out at my house it's almost impossible to get them to go home... what gives? I'm all for hanging out with someone but I need my personal space!

There's a kind of knack to winding up conversations. Most people usually respond to yawning, looking at your watch and saying things like "wow, it was great seeing you again, we must catch up again soon..!" . Letting the conversation dribble down to an awkward silence before saying the above can also work.

If they do not pick that up, you could alway apologise profusely and say you need to get back to studying/ calling your mum/ castrating the cat etc etc...

And, if all else fails, just arrange to meet them outside your house1

I avoid inviting them to my house and either go to their house or meet them at a restaurant or something so I can leave when I'm 'all people'd out' as I call it.

In a broader sense, I've always had this problem. I like having friends - but as we begin to bond, they inevitably start to make inordinate demands on my time (at least, that's the way I see it.) So the more they like me, the more I start to resent them. Over the years, I've pushed many good friends away. If I had known about AS at the time (and the effects it has on me, socially), I would have been able to tell them that it was something I can't help - I simply run out of energy for socializing.

I find it hard to set limits too. People don't seem to get my limits or respect them over the long term. I don't understand it. All confusing interpersonal stuff. At the same time, I don't want to impose on anyone in case I overstep limits, which I know I have done for sure in the past, so I tend to get isolated. No sense of balance in this area.

Ugh, this is the exact reason I make an effort to avoid having friends. They never leave! I've always had this problem, especially when I'm over at someone else's house or they're over at mine. Most of the time if I say I have to go they always interrogate me about where I'm going, what time I have to be there, can't I stay for a few extra minutes, etc. If they're at my house and I ask them to leave, they always seem offended. I don't get it. One time when I was at uni one of my friends came over, and I never asked her to leave. She stayed for almost a whole day!

Don't know, I never had that problem, bwahahahah!! I never have people over my house.