Do you hate you grew apart from past friends?

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Now a days I look back on friendships I wish I would of done something different with that friend and wish past friends were still my friend. For example the friend that's now in College the only picture I have of her is her in Kindergarden (some friendship!! !) and the last thing we did together was see Spider-Man in theaters. Also other friends have moved on and I have NO idea where they are. I don't remember there last names and surely some have married and changed there last name by now so there's no "finding them" through Facebook for example.

over the years I have watched my friends come and go. Usually I meet up with people in their late twenties and early thirties. . I watch them couple up and have kids and by the time they are teaching the kids to walk I start to fade from their scene and then move on and there are more people, single and looking to couple up and have kids. . .

and I just don't mature past that on a social level, I guess. I just go home and close the door and most of my Asperger's just fades away.

I did, but I tried to reconnect through facebook but except that we have separate lives

Interesting my sister the NT has friends who have kids her son (my nephew) is friends with my sister's friend's kid and the parents (my sister/her friend go out drink wine etc.) They have there kids to socialize and talk about. My sister was pregnant when her friends were and all that stuff. I have no interest in having children at the moment. I like older people too. I related far more to the teachers in Elementary and College more than my peers. Even doing Psychology club IMO teacher> Psychology club (hey I tried it was BORING AS HELL) and most people in my age range are the typical College partiers (Sure not all my alot do that stereotypical behaviors which I see no point in.)

Yes, I really do. Most of my former friends have changed for the worse, and none of them are the same as who they were when I went to school with them. I feel like they've all gone on with their lives and I'm the only one who hasn't changed, although I know that in reality I've changed quite a bit myself. I guess "matured" would be a better word. They've all matured and I'm still like a teenager. I guess that isn't so bad, though.

The hardest thing for me has been realizing that I am not going to have the close relationships like I did when I was a child. I think that Facebook has helped me maintain some relations with people from my school days, but unfortunately, many of them do not acknowledge me other than the friend request.

Sadly, most of my friends that I had when I was in school have moved on, sometimes to my benefit. My best friend from high school got in criminal trouble (thankfully after we mutually dropped the friendship), and another friend did some pretty repulsive things in high school (including almost getting picked up for a sex crime, and getting a girl pregnant when both parties were in their teens). I was happy to move beyond these friendships for the most part, but the latter person ending up becoming a person of some stature in the community a number of years out of high school.

I have a tendency to want to have friendships with those classmates that have done something with their lives. I often have seeked them out, but these friendships are often short lived and akward at best.

I am learning, sometimes the hard way, that most of the time you cannot return to your past to make friendships. You have to find people that you can bond wiith today.

yes I do, but at the same time, some of them aren't the same people that I grew to be such good friends with. But I really get nostalgic when I think about all the fun times I had with them. Some of the best times in my entire life was with my old friends that I don't talk to anymore.

I went to a different high school during sophomore year, and I just kind of grew apart from them. There was another friendship that ended badly, but oh well. I only miss the old times, I don't think I could be as good of friends with them now because of how they've changed. Not that they changed for better or worse, I just don't have as much in common with them

word for word how I feel. except for all but one of my old friends is still kind of the same, just a little different(not bad or good I guess). everything else you said is exactly what I think about when I think about those old friendships.

I ran into complete strangers, who claimed
they knew me in Kindergarten or primary
school, but I did not recognise them, they
claimed to be either former girlfrends
or someone I knew in high school, primary schoool.
or I don't know what. Some of them even
got my name coorectly which scared me
away. Maybe I got my memory erased??

The ones I do remember from primary school
are either dead or have idsapeerd totally
they changed into strangers and disapeerd.

I stayed 7 I guess.

I hear that, I no longer have any friends from high school left and I keep kicking myself for letting potiential friends go. I feel I'll have to start over someday but it's not that easy.

IdahoRose, that is the same with me; then again, I just recently aged out of my teenager years. But I have felt like I was still a kid during my teen years, while my friends all acted like adults already. I still feel like a teen. Some of my old friends seriously went in the "wrong" direction (mostly drugs). Others have simply matured and moved away. The only friend I still have from high school is my now boyfriend.

Even though I miss my old best friends, I still hate that I grew apart from them.

No.

I miss my friend from middle school. We were best friends and no one could seperate us. Then we went to different high schools. I moved away from her area and we lost contact. We saw each other a few times after leaving school but now I have no contact and I am sad. My other friend has moved to Australia and I miss her loads but we chat on MSN but it is not the same. I too have tracked down old 'friends' on facebook only to be ignored... don't know why I bothered.

I can't say I feel bad for growing apart from past friends. Of course, my friends have been few and far between, and even then many weren't very close to me.

Honestly, it's a relief. The very small number of friends I have now are the best friends I could ask for, and I couldn't handle more social contact.

Right now...I have some friends from college...I could pick up the phone and call, but I feel drawn into myself for some reason. I dont really want to socialize with my past freinds...although my heart longs for them. I feel torn between my need to incubate in my creative energy and my need for contact with the outside world. I wish I could do both. I miss them terribly, but cant make myself call them. Maybe I should try.