Social Network users how do you feel about them?

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I'm just curious. I always feel kind of scared by it... mostly because of my lack of social skills. I find it terribly hard to IM someone and say hello when I am on facebook. It's like, I know I want to and I should but... I just can't though... does this happen to you?

I know most of the time I prefer anything I can where I can think about my response first before I say anything. That's why I spend every day online. Most people think its an addiction but even my dad and my psychiatrist said its normal for me because I don't have to give a direct response. I can say something, wait for the responses but not reply right away.

But with the facebook chat, this makes it harder. I mean I can handle MSN and yahoo but facebook chat tends to make me cringe... even sending messages now because they make it so much like chat that its difficult for me.

Also, another thing about facebook, is their report system. I mean if we get bullied, what do we even do? When that stubborn NT harasses us... who do we turn to for reporting? No one. The report system sucks so much. Security concerns don't make things better if you ask me.

I mean in all honesty, with the changes of things, I have to admit, I do get upset by them. I get used to a certain way that facebook is and I want it to stay that way... but then something changes and it makes me a bit on edge.

As for myspace, I stopped going. When they first made those changes I get really upset. I sent them a message about it and explained my HFA/AS and my dislike for change... and all they said was, "we are sorry but there is nothing we can do. We know that you will really like what we do so please stay tuned" or something... and I hated it. I mean for NT, they can handle things that change like this but for us, its harder because we get used to a certain way that something is and when it changes, it can be rather unnerving, you know?

It always makes me mad since Myspace doesn't give the options to keep the old myspace if you like it better... or whatever. I mean they force changes onto you and never listen to how you feel. Same with facebook.

Yea, I have problems Im-ing people on my NT fb..

Why would you be friends with someone who harasses you?
Anyone who is a jerk even at all would be IMMEDIATELY taken off the friend list.

Never had a myspace

I used to use MSN, Yahoo! IM and ICQ all the time for talking to both friends and random people who'd just IM to say hello. That changed, people don't use IM like they used to, and no one ever seems to be online any more. I decided to be brave a while back and unblock people on MSN as well as changing Facebook settings so I would get Facebook IM's through MSN which is much better, however no increase in IM's as no one seems to communicate like this any more...fine with me, like you I prefer to plan my response.

I suggest you try getting Facebook IM's through MSN as it is easier - on MSN click on the menu to add new people, select the option 'Add people from other services' and a new web page will open to allow you to add Facebook friends. This will add all Facebook friends, I found it easier to put Facebook friends in different groups and change who can/cannot contact me on Facebook itself.

Facebook customer service is non-existent and little can be done to report people. If someone is bothering you however you can block them, so they cannot contact you or even find you on Facebook. Their privacy is a joke, especially as they keep changing the privacy so you don't know what's what in your privacy settings...I personally hate that when someone on my friends list had commented on the update of their friend I could see this too, even if I wasn't friends with this person who had made the update...I assume they had chosen the settings to allow friends-of-friends to see updates, and I think Facebook has changed this now, but it bothered me a lot.

Facebook has changed a lot since I first started using it, the layout, privacy options, we used to have a lot more memes and the way the groups used to be meant more interaction with the applications and groups than with people...I don't have a preference either way, the changes on Facebook have happened so slowly, with changes happening all the time, that you don't fully realise how much it's changed. A lot of changes are annoying though, like the new way they do groups so it's not as separate as they used to be, or being shown every time a friend adds a new friend or changes their userpic.

MySpace - I like the new layout, I think this was them trying to compete with Facebook, it was never going to work as it was too little too late, I think now only bands really use MySpace and even that isn't likely to last long - the new layout etc. of MySpace is great and all, but when you're used to one thing it being changed makes it awkward...especially if like me you had left some time ago to go on Facebook, you just can't be bothered to re-learn how to be on the new MySpace, not when you don't need to as you have your Facebook.

I think MySpace was ultimately killed by Spammers.


As for Facebook, I tried it for a while and gradually lost interest. I just decided I disliked the format of Wall posts. It seemed like it only promoted dumb chit chat like what so-and-so had for lunch as opposed to any meaningful discussion.

Strangely it seemed to me in the early days of Facebook the 'Groups' were setup more like forums and they did away with that.

After a while I just felt there was a real lack of good discussion and also I thought it had the weird effect or bringing together Work, Friends, and Family social circles. So eventually I just quit Facebook and pulled my account off.

Social network sites are the only way I really get to talk to people. I don't have the worry about body language or eye contact or any of that annoying stuff. I'm not good at using MSN or facebook message though, because it is so much like talking it person.

I don't like the way sites keeps changing, but I put up with it because it is the only opinion I have.