How often do you contact loved ones?

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I'm very close to my parents and brother... By which I mean there is mutual love, trust, and enjoyment in the relationships.

But I don't call them or visit them very often. Even though I love them very much. I'll contact one of them every one to three months or so. One of them will initiate contact with me every two to three weeks or so.

How often is it normal to initiate contact with close loved ones? Am I at risk for making them think I don't care?

I call my parents maybe once every few months myself... they call me perhaps every month and a half to say hello and how are you and such. I would not worry about them questioning your fondness or affections. If your parents are like mine, they know you well enough to know you might just not be the calling up to chit chat type and not take it personally. My parents know I care for them even if I rarely call.

Alexithymia and Dossa, thank you both for your input.

I call my mother every 3 days or so, though it used to be even more often. Same with my sister, though when a special interest takes over I call less, and when I do, I'm so distracted I can barely converse acceptably. I call my grandmother every weekend - I love her dearly. I talked to my dad twice last year and none the year before that. This year we've texted a little and I've talked to him maybe 3 times so far. i have some relatives I've grown very far from and don't really talk to anymore.

I tend to only call/visit/contact in any other way when there's something I need to talk about. Even when my sister was living in the same apartment complex as me I usually only saw her when we'd pass each other in the street or meet up at the same social functions or whatever.

Even if you don't often call your family, make sure you don't know ignore their calls when they call you. They'll start worrying that something might have happened to you.

Loved ones as opposed to liked ones?
Well... I live with my dog, and I talk to the human every day.

My family rarely hears from me unless there's actually something to communicate. I lose track of time. Usually, they call me about every one to two months or so. I hear from my daughter more frequently, about once a week.

I respond when they contact me but I typically contact my immediate family (parents & sibs) one a week-once a month. Other relatives get no contact unless I'm home from college .

what i wanna know is why people call people loved ones.
i only see my ret*d family on the holidays thank god

I don't contact anyone not even my loved ones much these days.

Use to until I found out what they really thought of me. Now they beg for my return and I happily relinquish.

I touch my mother sometimes.
I sometimes write her messages.
I do not know if I can love.