Is This Gone For Good?

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Back in August of '09 me and some friends were playing an online game of Gears of War 2 when my best friend beat me for the 5 or 6th straight time. I am a sore loser so I got angry, did some yelling, and removed him from my friends list. Ever since then me and him haven't talked. His parents have been going through a divorce for the past couple of years and I was someone he talked to about it and I talked to him about issues I had so ever since this incident he has said to everyone that asks that me and him were never friends. So what I wanted to ask was do you guys think this friendship can be saved? Because to be honest he was like a brother to me.

I've had "friends" turn against me like that , in elementary school and high school.

Try apologizing and see what happens. In person, not by phone or Internet.

To be honest, I wouldn't hold out much hope.

I think you can chalk this one up to experience; if you act in certain ways (in this case, being a bad loser) and don't apologise when you realise, then you run the risk of losing your friends.

Just be polite if you see him again (perhaps even say sorry for how you acted) and be careful to avoid treating other people the same way.

Something I forgot to mention is that he's done this to me before (remove me, cut off all contact with me) but not like this.

I have had this happen to me and it is not fun. I have found in many situations, that if you don't obsess over the loss of your friend and let it go for awhile, they usually come back after a couple of years. This does depend how close you were to the person before your spat though.

Many years ago I had a friend in middle school whom my family took into due to his crappy home life (long story). I liked the young man, but due to my immaturity I would make off the wall comments about his situation, sometimes repeating what my parents, classmates, teachers, etc said about him. No wonder after about a year, he moved on (it didn't help that my parents contacted social services about his situation either). It took me years to understand totally the magnitude of his situation, and the abuses and neglect that he had to endure. It bothers me that I treated him the way that I did. Even though we chat when we run into one another, he has told me that he wants no contact via phone, e-mail, etc.