Unconfortable with gender performance?

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I have been thinking about why I don't enjoy/start conversations with most people. Maybe part of the reason has to do with gendered expectations and performance.

Every time I talk to a women under 50 years old, I feel uncomfortable. I know these women are human beings, but I think part of the problem is is that I don't feel like I am treated as an equal. I feel like when a carry conversations with old women, I'm not expected to put on a performance. But when socializing involves women of younger age I feel put off.

So you're comfortable speaking to older women because they are more mature basically?
It honestly depends on the girls personalities that you're talking to, not all are the same obviously. For me I feel like I'm much older mentally because I've been through so much and a lot of my friends are either a lot older or mentally aged themselves.

I find it easier to talk to most males than I do females, and the females I do get along with are usually lesbians even though I'm straight. Not sure why. That and autistic girls I'm fine with.

Maybe you're just used to being around people who are easy to talk with more than it just being a young female gender thing.

I think I am uncomfortable talking to most women because they expect me to play a dominant role in every social interaction I have with them.