I didn't know where to put this...i need serous help

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feaghal
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23 Apr 2010, 6:23 pm

my dad has major anger issues...the smallest thing will set him off. and the only way he hears me is when i am louder than him when hes mad...i try to reason, but "im not taking responsibility then. he was about to hit me today...what do i do?

i love my dad to death (mom on the other hand...not so much long story) i am willing to get the law involved, but i don't want to unless its the only option


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23 Apr 2010, 6:38 pm

You're 18. If he physically hurts you you can call the cops on him.

Other than that, try to get him to see someone for anger management or counseling.


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23 Apr 2010, 6:53 pm

Call the cops.


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23 Apr 2010, 7:43 pm

I will if he does...but he refuses to see a doc or somthing


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24 Apr 2010, 5:45 pm

I posted here on an alt the other day before it was banned and post-wiped, as owning more than one account is apparently against the rules. A simple "dude, you can't own more than one account without permission" would have sufficed :-p I even announced in a thread I started that I was on an alt, and no one said I couldn't do this, but moving on.

The gist of my reply was to suggest you move out, as I've moved around a fair bit and found that when I had to work/pay more in order to not live in an unpleasant living situation, I didn't regret it, and it sounds like you won't either. An exception might be if you're barely home and you're getting free rent.



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24 Apr 2010, 7:32 pm

I suggest finding counseling for yourself. You can apprise the counselor of your situation, and hash out how best to deal with the situation without having to resort to extremes, like the cops. Also, the counselor will give you perspectives on the matter that you hadn't considered that might change things a little. This seems to me like a good way of finding a safer resolution, and the counselors insights will likely include how to get through to him without falling into the usual confrontational situations.

If you need to give an excuse to why you want to see a counselor, you could say something like, "I have a lot of personal problems and I need someone private to talk with them about." I'm sure others could come up with better ideas than that one though. ;)



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26 Apr 2010, 3:52 pm

I have one, but it doesn't help much... and the last one i had absolutely bitched me out cause "god told him not to let me talk"


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