Going out alone

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I find that there's a fair amount of activities that I've done by myself that most people don't do alone and have said they'd be uncomfortable doing alone. Some of them include:

going to a movie (I've done this a few times and I go on slow days when there's the least amount of people there - less noisy)
eating in a restaurant (although I don't do it often, I have done it and it doesn't really bother me)
taking a trip or vacation
shopping
attending a religious service
attending a social function (I usually leave early though)

I was wondering how many other people don't mind doing activities by themselves.

I love doing these kind of things by myself, I'm hoping to go on holiday for a weekend on my own this summer and although I haven't planned anything for definite yet, if it does happen I know I'll enjoy it!

A while ago, though, one of my favourite plays was on in a fairly nearby theatre. I really wanted to go there but unfortunately I didn't because I would have to go on my own. Although I enjoy solitude, I know that I have very little common sense, as well as a poor sense of direction, and I didn't want to end up lost alone in a fairly unfamiliar town.

People often pick on loners, and going out alone can make someone very vulnerable. If I'm going shopping alone I get very nervous passing groups of people from the ages of 13-19 (The age when being a loner is seen as a terrible sin) because I know that if I'm on my own they're more likely to pick on me, especially because of the way I look and I don't seem "cool".

So I don't mind doing things alone, and would do almost everything on my own, if I wasn't so aware of how vulnerable it makes me.

I love doing the activites you listed by myself. What I DON'T love though is the looks and stuff I get. Especially if I go to see a funny movie by myself. I have a pretty loud laugh and when people see I'm by myself they get all...well, weird is the only way I can describe it. They look at me as if I'm some psycho or something IMO a lot of these things are better alone really. People seem to use them as social outings when, IMO, the attention is focused on something not social at all. Like watching a movie. it's dark, you're not supposed to talk. How is that "Social"? I DO like to discuss a movie AFTER. But the act of seeing the movie isn't social to me. Also, when I eat I like to eat. It is not social. In church services, you are supposed to pay attention to the speaker (fill in whatever religious officiant applies to you). Sure, you sometimes have to shake your neighbors hand or share a book of hymns or something- but it's not something you need to do with a friend or something. Taking a trip I would LOVE to do on my own, but there are some benefits to having someone else along. It's safer. In general I like being alone, however over the years I have come to enjoy these things with couple specific people (namely my hubby, son-somewhat- he's still quite young, and parents/siblings)

I do all those things by myself, and I haven't been self-conscious about it in years.

Most of the time I would rather do activities on my own. I go to the movies, go to a restaurant or go to the gym by myself. I don't usually have anyone to go with so I go by myself.

I often do activities like those that you listed by myself. Doesn't bother me a bit.

I just got back from a nice solo outing myself. I spent the day at Eno River state park, where I walked a few miles along some of the riverside trails. It was incredibly peaceful - the trails are far enough from any roads that you can't hear the cars (or the sound of anything else man-made, for that matter), and there weren't many people about so most of my hike was completely solitary. It was a great stress reliever, and I didn't feel too awkward for going alone either. I admit I did wish I had a partner to share the experience with, though.

All my other outings are made on my own as well, unless family is visiting or I'm doing something with work colleagues.

I do these things on my own. I like to go to the city centre on the bus on my own and have a wonder round and buy things because I can go in all my favourite shops for as long as I want and not have to wait for anybody else or have to rush for other people.

I do most things on my own anyway because I really don't have a social life. I enjoy doing things with friends just about every chance I get, and I scarcely ever get a chance.

I usually prefer to go on outings on my own, that way I am not obligated to another person's interests or choices. I am mocked on occasion by others for doing "social" activities solo, but it doesn't bother me. My mother prefers I not do anything alone, though her concerns are primarily safety related.

Out of that list, the only thing I do alone is shop. I do plan on taking a vacation by myself someday. There's no point in me going with my parents anymore. I don't want to depend of them for everything.