semi-aspies?

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sometimes i meet other people who seem like they might also have asperger's but they have large social circles ("lives") and seen more neurotypical than anything. but there is just something about the the way they communicate that strikes me as "semi-aspergian".
my current love interest strikes me as one of these individuals. today, on a date, we were chatting and i observed that he doesn't move his lips. he talks but he makes no expression with his mouth. only occasionally he smiles (only when he's laughing). also he speaks in this assertive-yet-polite manner... it's just so formal and serious. somewhat monotonic. he doesn't do anything warm like greeting/goodbye hugs and if i apologize for being awkward myself (i have AS) he'll just say "the awkwardness is ok." he also points out that i'm nervous and i find it a tad bit offensive. he never complements me and i feel like i'm running on empty with him. does it sound like he could be an aspie or have traits? (i don't think this lack of expression/affection is disinterest. he is always asking me to hang out with him)

Could be alot, some people have disorders that make them unable to learn facial expressions, some just do not move that much, some never smile and some people are paralysed in their face making them physically unable to smile.

From what i know, it is possible to be an Aspie and still have a normal social life, even though it is exhausting for the person. You do not have to fit into every diagnostic criteria.

And to "hang out" isnt necessary out of a specific love interest. Sometimes people feel lonely and want a friend or just someone to talk to.

gee, that sounds just like my older brother. he ended up marrying an NT who accomodates him quite well.

Not too sound big headed or anything but this does exsplain me, I feel i have really come on in understanding other people and their emotions moreso than the actual NT's themselves i can point out how someone is feeling to an NT and it turns out to be true ( this is semi rare ) but as i have grown i have learned so much on how too understand social situations and everything to a point where people have been really shocked when i revealed to them that i had AS.

Of course i still have work to do my eye contact is not strong and i really struggle in crowds but when talking to a group of one or two i fit in great no problem it's also made me so much more confident around others

How i got this far is through my mothers unbelivable persiverence into making sure i can stand on my own two feet as best as i can and also actually understanding the syndrome itself has really helped me notice my flaws and i can confidently say i have overcomed 75% of my AS now everyone says i am a completely different to when i was say 10? and im only 15 so thats five years it took me to get a grip and understand as much as i could and it has and will continue too pay off as i grow older.

I cant beleive how lucky i am too have parents who are understanding of my AS and know that i can exsplain and talk to them about any problems i have and exsplain it and work at it with them.

I no longer see or ever really did see AS as a curse or bad thing in actaul fact I LOVE IT! so maybe i might keep the remaining 25% of my AS to keep me different and only 25% alien

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Not too sound big headed or anything but this does exsplain me, I feel i have really come on in understanding other people and their emotions moreso than the actual NT's themselves i can point out how someone is feeling to an NT and it turns out to be true ( this is semi rare ) but as i have grown i have learned so much on how too understand social situations and everything to a point where people have been really shocked when i revealed to them that i had AS.

Of course i still have work to do my eye contact is not strong and i really struggle in crowds but when talking to a group of one or two i fit in great no problem it's also made me so much more confident around others

How i got this far is through my mothers unbelivable persiverence into making sure i can stand on my own two feet as best as i can and also actually understanding the syndrome itself has really helped me notice my flaws and i can confidently say i have overcomed 75% of my AS now everyone says i am a completely different to when i was say 10? and im only 15 so thats five years it took me to get a grip and understand as much as i could and it has and will continue too pay off as i grow older.

I cant beleive how lucky i am too have parents who are understanding of my AS and know that i can exsplain and talk to them about any problems i have and exsplain it and work at it with them.

I no longer see or ever really did see AS as a curse or bad thing in actaul fact I LOVE IT! so maybe i might keep the remaining 25% of my AS to keep me different and only 25% alien

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My favorite letter is the squiggly! ~

Not too sound big headed or anything but this does exsplain me, I feel i have really come on in understanding other people and their emotions moreso than the actual NT's themselves i can point out how someone is feeling to an NT and it turns out to be true ( this is semi rare ) but as i have grown i have learned so much on how too understand social situations and everything to a point where people have been really shocked when i revealed to them that i had AS.

Of course i still have work to do my eye contact is not strong and i really struggle in crowds but when talking to a group of one or two i fit in great no problem it's also made me so much more confident around others

How i got this far is through my mothers unbelivable persiverence into making sure i can stand on my own two feet as best as i can and also actually understanding the syndrome itself has really helped me notice my flaws and i can confidently say i have overcomed 75% of my AS now everyone says i am a completely different to when i was say 10? and im only 15 so thats five years it took me to get a grip and understand as much as i could and it has and will continue too pay off as i grow older.

I cant beleive how lucky i am too have parents who are understanding of my AS and know that i can exsplain and talk to them about any problems i have and exsplain it and work at it with them.

I no longer see or ever really did see AS as a curse or bad thing in actaul fact I LOVE IT! so maybe i might keep the remaining 25% of my AS to keep me different and only 25% alien

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All of my friends are, by definition, NTs, though I suppose one could say they're all "semi-aspies" in different ways. Some of them have problems with communication, some with facial expression, some with impulse control, or OCD tendencies, and some of them have very "special interest"-esq obsessions. All of my friends have a thirst for knowledge, so they don't mind listening to me ramble on about politics or science.
I find that I can only really connect/get along well with people who aren't 100% normal, or else I simply don't feel comfortable and don't know what to talk about!

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Could just be a case of weird people being weird. It's easy to think of NT just meaning "perfectly normal and well-adjusted", but you only have to do a little people-watching to see that almost everyone has their odd little quirks.

Like Leander said, all sorts of people are quirky. Aspies don't have the corner on the market, though it sometimes may feel that way if you aren't good at reading what's going on socially. A lot of the things I see people posting about, like trouble sorting out who wants to date/marry who, or getting kids to play nicely together, could be written on any forum anywhere by any kind of person.

Wtf why have i got a triple post of my message

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