Need Some Advice.

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I was wondering if I could get any tips on how to improve my social skills and just to work on myself as a person in general. I gave myself a hard look in the mirror today and realized that there is plenty that I have to work on to become a better me. I know that this doesn't have as much to do with this forum but I am getting to the point where having a relationship would be nice. The only issue is that I realized that I need to work on my self and become the best person I can be before I do this.

I also think that I need to have more actual friends before I get a girlfriend at some point. Learn how to become a friend first. Do you guys think that would be a logical first step? How can I improve my social skills dramatically over summer break from school. I will have lots of time to work on it for sure and I think if I can improve a lot over the summer it will be good start heading back into the school year. Any toughts or suggestions?

You don't mention what you think your particular shortcomings are, so it's tough to make appropriate suggestions.

I've found the book People Skills by Robert Bolton helpful in understanding how to have a healthy conversation and learning reflective listening, a tremendous asset in any relationship.

Speech therapy can help with developing prosody and the give and take of conversation, among other things.

I do agree with you that having a larger circle of friends is helpful, just because you'll have increased opportunities to meet a wider range of potential romantic partners. Also, if they are people who are attempting to create healthy relationships (even a casual relationship can be healthy or unhealthy) and not just "get their rocks off", they can be a good source of support and advice. And if your romantic partnership breaks up (or should I say when, because generally the first few do), a wider circle of friends will be good support and necessary distraction.