Overly affectionate friends?

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...Or am I just under affectionate?
I saw my friend today whom I've known since primary school. I think he's a really good friend and that and I enjoy his company but he's just too affectionate and touchy feely and always had been. I don't like it personally, of course I don't mind having a quick hug before we leave but that's all I want to be honest. Today for example when we played pool he kept putting his arm round me when talking and sometimes facing me with his hands on my arms, and he'd talk to me while trying to stare at my eyes and I usually step away because he's bombarding me with all this stuff (eyes and touch at the same time, no no no, one at a time!). He doesn't fancy me and hasn't for a while but he's still too touchy feely! I want to tell him to stop because I'm not comfortable with all that affectionate stuff but I don't want him to take it personally. His other friends probably don't mind but I'm not his other friends am I, so I don't want all that huggy business. I only have one friend I'm comfortable being touched by and it's not him.
What do I say to him without looking like I'm being cold towards him?

I have a couple friends like that, and if I'm having one of those, "touch me and I will take your hand off" days, I just tell them that it's one of "those days." If I tell them that, or to back off and give me a little space, they're usually pretty good about it.

That sounds like excessive touching, even for aNT. I'd just tell him flat out, "Please don't touch me all the time - I'm not a touchy-feely person. That stuff just crawls up my skin" And if he persists, simply take his hands and move them off you anytime he does it, until he gets the point. He sounds to me like one of those people too thick to realize how boorish their behavior is to others. Does he have a tendency to wear waayy too much cologne, too?

There are solutions to grabby people.

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