The right thing to do?

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This girl and her friends gave me a hard time today while I was babysitting my little brother at the playground. They shouted my first and last name (people do that to give me a hard time and piss me off) I sent the girl a message on her Facebook profile telling her how inappropriate of a thing she did and I also said, get ready, that I am autistic and that basically means that I have a harder time socializing with others and I am psychologically messed up because of people like her, which I am. I might be going on an antidepressant because these jerks get me down so much. People don't seem to understand how much bullying impacts the person that is being bullied. You guys think this was the right thing to say?

If the girl has a sense of right and wrong it may have been good. If she's trying to hurt you, you've just told her that she did.

Sometimes bullies do this with full knowledge of what they're doing. I'm not trying to upset you saying this, I'm just letting you know.

I've been bullied too, I understand the pain that they can cause but I found the best way to deal with them is to try live your life and try to enjoy your life. It can get the intentional ones so annoyed because they can't see their effect on you so much and they may even give up bullying you.

That sounds a lot like what my classmates used to do. To be honest, telling that girl all those things, particularly over Facebook where everyone can see, is the kind of reaction she was probably looking for. Any reaction spurs bullies like this on, because seeing you react shows them that they effected you.

Some people use that fact that someone is autistic to further bully them... I only disclose my AS to friends, though other people may tell something is 'different'. I'm not sure if it was the right thing to do... she doesn't seem like a nice person, so she would probably your being autistic against you. Somehow. o_o

I know you want people to understand but unless they are a sibling or parent of an autistic child you may as well be speaking another language altogether. She sounds like she likes to irritate you and you are fueling her actions. Its sick but some people, who hate themselves have to hurt who ever they can cause they have an emptiness in their own life they cannot fill.

I had a girl embarrass me while the whole school was outside during a fire drill. She brought up something and people laughed and then she kept saying more about it like I had a condition or something. I just smiled and shrugged my shoulders. After that, people just forgot about it and I realized after that day I didn't give her anything back. She needed a reaction and I gave her nothing. If you laugh at yourself and say something like your making fun of yourself, when you do something odd or embarrassing in public, you take anyones chance away from getting a word in.

I know its hard but try and stay cool.

Here's a comeback if you have any autism backlash.

At least scientists have researched autism but they've given up figuring out how to remove that pole from your *ss.

Then again don't use it but always know its handy when you need it.

Well the thing is, this has happened before and I ignored it. It's happened one too many times, and I had to say something. I'm sick of being pushed around by people and felt I needed to stand up for myself.

UPDATE: Well she sent me an email saying she wasn't harassing me at all, and that she was just saying hi. I replied saying it sure felt like she was harassing me.

Wait wait wait..... This girl picks on you then you tell her your autistic?? isn't that going to like give her ammunition to give you an even harder time??

I don't even go to the school she goes to anymore. I graduated and she's an underclassman. So, I didn't have much to lose by telling her I'm autistic. Now she sent me a message saying she was just being nice. I replied saying I've been through so much that I have a hard time distinguishing between someone being nice to me and someone who's giving me a hard time and that she out of all people should know that.

Oh right it really depends on the way she way doing it maybe she was just being playful

I wouldn't waste my time bothering with underclassmen, personally. I'd just let it go.

I agree completely.