Seeing an ex friend again in a support group tonight....

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I am seeing an ex (good) friend of mine again in my shyness support group for the first time after her quitting our friendship by e-mail this past Sunday...

I know she won't avoid the group meeting just because i will show up there.
The group is going out for a cocktail or two duriing the happy hour of a cocktail bar ..
We've been there before. Cocktails are yummy,
I will try to smile and be upbest and not show more interest in her than in other group members, won't argue with her or beg or complain or gripe.

I went through differnt emotions about her decision.... At onne point i condemned her and felt that she unasked herself & that it#S good i visited her at her cafe because so i found her for what she is...In short she wasn't a good friend really & it's not wprth it winning her back. Though the feeling of closed doors to someine is ugly...
I will be resolute... Make her feel by happiness and indifference and aloofness that she made a big mistake and she doesn't deserve me being my friend & that she isn't a friend...

I saw her at the shyness support group's night out & first we said causually but friendly and cheerily Hello to each other and went on from there. We've had deep discussions as well light hearted ones. She let me taste her curry soup & let her try my two cocktails.

I brought up the enervating issue only briefly, first telling her that i replied to her note & then i said that it was a pity- Whereupun she replied that it's it a pity too. She said too that she needed distance/space. Then i admitted that i annoyed her on sunday but she said that she wrote all she had to ssay on Sunday. Afert that i suggested a change of subject & we did that

I don't know what i should call it what i and she are now: friends , casual friends or acquaintances. What do you think, seeing that we have no comtact in between group activities amnd meetings, not by mail not by phone etc...?