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So I have been emailing the disability lady on my college campus ( I dont live there yet) about meeting with my professors on Tuesday. She just got back to work today. But she was there last week as well. She only replies to the messages about meeting with the professors not the ones about jobs on campus and driver's school on campus. all I did was ask her if she knew of any. She never responded, only to the ones that talked about the professor meeting. I came up with possible reasons why

1. Maybe she doesnt know
2. Maybe she'll talk to me about it when she meets me
3. She just wants to keep the focus on meeting with the professors and not overload herself with extra questions and work, therefore she's choosing to ignore it
4. She doesnt care.


I don't know, but at least she can write back saying "I dont know at the time" or "we'll talk about it at the meeting". I learned to take what people say with a grain of salt, because from my other posts I am sure you all know my biggest pet peeve is when people ignore my messages. When I first met her she told me about how she sends messages to other disability students and they just ignore it and how it bothers her. and I told her I wont ignore her messages so she wont have to worry about it. Now she is doing to me what she hates happening to her.

People always say they hate it when people ignore them, but I have met only one person in my life who has kept his word with this thing and it was a guy from my class. He didnt necessarily feel the same way I did about it, but he said "how hard is it to reply" and sure enough he always responded to my messages. but everyone else I have met have been hypocrites. and I feel this lady may be one as well, I'm not sure. I dont even wanna ask her about it when I meet her because I know she has the email, and it is her job to coordinate these things with me, I'm not trying to be friends with her, she does this stuff for a living and she's slacking off from what I feel.

Many people irl do this, and I hate it. They make commitments they don't stick to, but in some cases, if you do the same thing, it could be a bad mark for you. My best suggestion is don't depend on one's word and just look for different people to ask. They expect you to figure out who you can ask or who will answer you. It's frustrating, I know, but all you can do is keep trying!

Another reason they may not respond is because if they do, they feel they may become liable or committing themselves to unnecessary work. Like if so and so responds to an e-mail, then she has to answer all e-mails like this that come in. Otherwise maybe that person could be liable to lose their jobs regardless of the number of e-mails she receives. it's cruel and inconsiderate, but that is the kind of world we live in much of the time. If you find people who can fully commit, those are the ones you can be more friendly with, maybe even give them a small gift if they've been extremely helpful throughout the year!

I don't know exactly what her job description is. Maybe those questions are outside of her particular job duties, and perhaps she thinks you could contact the campus jobs office about jobs and look up the driving classes on your own? But I agree completely that she should at least say so if that's the case.

I see her tomorrow, but I don't even wanna bother asking her about the email because I've done this with too many other folks and they act stupid. I took what she said about people not replying with a grain of salt in the first place, because most people I've met have been like this. It makes me feel like I can't trust her. But now I know that when I start college I shouldn't contact her as much because this type of thing happened with my school counselor.

idk, should I say something about it tomorrow? or just leave her alone?

If you do mention it to her, I wouldn't say anything about the emails. I would just say, "I was wondering about jobs and the driving school? Can you give me any information about that?"

If you ask her why she didn't respond in the emails, it might sound to her like a criticism.

Depending on the situation, once in awhile, waiting and saying nothing for a week versus a few days or so will get you a good response! One time I was in a situation where I needed a response to something- the quicker the better. First I tried e-mailing, no response in a few days. Then I tried meeting the guy in-person, and I was able to tell that I was purposely blocked from this meeting occurring. Then I tried talking to a higher up about getting something signed and I almost talked about the situation and all the things I had tried up to that point, but I'm glad I didn't! Otherwise I may've caused unnecessary trouble and grief! I waited it out longer and wahlah, my situation was taken care of through e-mail by the guy who wouldn't respond to me!