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Let's say I find a friend or two to hang out with. They invite me over to their house to hang out. There isn't much to do in the area that I live in. Movies, bowling, amusement parks are expensive and besides, it gets old after a while. We are in our late teens. What should we do to develop our friendship. It seems when people that I know hang out with others, they can be doing what seems like nothing, but it in fact is still fun just because of the company. I'm not really one of those people who can create that feeling of fun on my own. If we aren't actually doing something to keep us occupied, it is just awkard. Then again, I'm a bit of an awkward person in the first place. HELP.

Common interests.

Try slyly offering new ideas to your friends on things that you find interesting. Laser tag, painting, new movies, etc. Don't make it too obvious, though; nobody like someone just offering ideas with no possible root to what was being discussed before.
If you find something that works, get on it immediately. If a few things work out, you'll start being known as the 'adventurous one' of your friends.

Good luck!

Thanks but I meant if we are just sitting around and all of the typical options that we would be interested in are gone or we've done so much that we are tired of it.

OK... then talk about what your common interests are. Even if you can't do something, there's a certain satisfaction you can get from discussing and daydreaming about it.

Sorry I'm being so difficult. I guess what I was trying to say is that our common interest(s) are what made us friends in the first place. Once that is established, we can do things together like eat lunch or dinner (my favorite means of socializing when I am either not close or don't know what to do with them, but it gets expensive and right now, I'm broke), go to attractions, talk about our interests, etc.

But I've noticed that there is something else that I have noticed among NTs. A certain ability to talk about random things that have nothing to do with what they have in common (more than small talk), or just have fun in each other's company without really doing anything (when I try this, we just sit around asking what the other wants to do). I want this. How do I get it?

Ask them what they would like to do.