I just learned something important about jerks...

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I've posted numerous times on these boards how I feel I'm the only one some people are mean to. While I can't prove or disprove it, I somehow always blamed myself too readily. But it seems more and more, when I ask about these people who give me dirty looks or seem rejecting, I'm finding out

A: They're bipolar
B: really really weird in a bad way.
C: Rude to other people, or at least the ones I ask.
D: Probably mentally ill
E: Self-professed dicks
F: Oblivious to the point of rudeness
G: Just that way, even to their friends (why do they stay friends with them then?)

I'm starting to break the cycle, I think. This is validating, and I no longer feel like it's only me getting it. I hope I continue to heal.

While I haven't read your previous posts, I am glad to hear you are healing. You should not blame yourself for the behaviours of others, these are beyond your control.

jerks are intimidated by other jerks, that's why they prey on people who are nicer than them. and jerks have a hard time admitting they're wrong so of course they'll try to make it seem like it's the other person's fault.

Jerks will be jerks.

But remember where you are. You are on a forum with people who may not best know how to be social and may not recognize that the things they are saying are coming out negatively.

Also remember, this is super inter high way net work. It is text. I know for a fact that many of the things I type are misread and misconstrued.

Of course there are jerks, trolls, flamers, etc. out there. My method of dealing with them is to say something funny or off topic and move on.

There's no need to rationalize why jerks are jerks. Why doesn't matter. All that matters is how you choose to deal with them.

I doubt jerks are that way 'because they're so sad'. This seems like a bullcrap way to make yourself feel better if you're teased.

this reminds me of a song i've loved since i first heard it

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Sometimes people come online and be jerks because they think it's the internet (which it is) and people shouldn't take it seriously and they think your feelings don't matter because they are never going to see you and you can easily click the back button and ignore you. Same as ignoring posts and stuff and not responding to them.

I do agree with "It's the internet" because I don't want to let people get to me.

Sometimes people are jerks because they had a messed up life so it messed them up. People also might not even realize they are being one.

I think that it's because people let their guard down, when they're posting on the Internet, and you get to have a taste of what that person is really all about. Secondly, this is a forum, where some people's social skills might not be so good, and they leap before they look, socially speaking.

I've been accused of doing lot of insults and personal attacks here and I am baffled by it. I sure never got PMs for it every time so maybe they were just lying then. I have also been accused of how I kept provoking people here just because of a thread I posted or what I said in a post in a thread regarding a member that used to be here. Some people have the wrong assumptions about me. Maybe it's because of my poor social skills and my opinions. I've been told by my friends I say mean things and hurt their feelings sometimes but they know it's not my intention, I've been told I say offensive things and I don't mean to.

When I wrote this, I didn't have the internet in mind. I meant in real life, but whatever.

The people here that I have a problem, are the types who say, "Okay now, let's be honest with ourselves!" and than they go on about how autism is such a horrible catastrophe, and that we should all feel sorry about ourselves, or improve ourselves through those person's eyes.