I'm Here In College

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I am here at the summer program for college. This is my first time in college. I am a bit nervous. I have a single dorm, I like that. But can anyone give me some tips on the social part. i don't really wanna get too social. I am the only one on my floor, everyone else is upstairs, besides the student helpers who are upperclassmen. they are nice, I just dont feel comfortable around the actual students. idk. so feel free to give me some tips. what should I do? how should I go about this?

i always find that getting in to a study group helps me with the social part. just listen closely and look around for people who are forming these groups. just be as natural as you can and don't try to impress people too much. this isn't high school so people aren't going to be clumped in their groups as much any more. the social field is better this way.

oh and don't be afraid to ask for help. by the way how big is this college? is it a major university?

The college is very big, but for the time being, the program is going on and there are 350 students on campus. Yes it's Arizona State University. a and during the year I heard its 75,000 people who go here. I'm just a little nervous. My brother's friend keeps telling me to talk to girls and have sex with them, but I don't care about that stuff and I told him. I dont like girls, and I don't want to have sex with a girl I met in 2 days. Im just lookking on the bright side, I did a summer program b4 high school and I was trying to impress everyone, get a gf, look cool. Now I could care less about the social aspect, but sometimes I wonder do I not care about it too much. But thats better than caring i guess. right now everyone is at lunch and lunch is on the 2nd floor and I already ate something and im not hungry. and the elevator is packed all the time (i am on the first floor alone, but there are bolder students here that help). so im just going to stay in my room for a while. Im more excited for class and the homework...i know it sounds weird

idk, is it weird to stay in your dorm all day? it's my first day anyhow

i'm sure you'll be become more comfortable as you wander around the campus. i went to a university last semester as well and i had troubles socially. study groups helped me quite a bit. you're a bit better off that you're living on campus and are closer to your classes. i was living off campus.

This reminds me of my first few at college. I stuck by myself. In retrospect, college kids are in new territory and they are looking to conform. Most of them. The upper classman are occassionaly scowering the premises to find weak freshman to convert to their ways of thinking. I would consider college limbo from your home life and the "programmed" world ahead of you. You get a little more freedom but there is hidden rules and laws to keep you on their path. Its a bunch of different wires mixing together between very few smart kids, kids looking to have fun and kids looking to get away. College isn't my type of enviornment. The girls subconsciously are really looking to replace their father and the boys are looking for the comfort of new and improved mommy. Its really a sexfest or nest more than anything.

Interesting. And what type of student were you? I don't know what I'm like, I'm just looking forward to class tomorrow because I like it better than socializing, and it gives me something to do while im in my room alone.

Well. If you mean socially, I started out at this "placement house" because the dorms were full. That was the reason that I was told. So it was me n these NT's all in the house with our seperate rooms. All the guys in the house were your typical frat boys who wanted to party. They asked me to do stuff with them and I did at first. They would play their annoying rap music in the car and I remember they played cards. It was extremely boring. Then of course, the next day these dim girls came over to see the hot guy of the house and I started drinking. Immediately, I had a bad expierence. These two girls went outside with this other guy n I went with them to smoke at the time. After about 4 minutes of being ignored, the guy got up and went inside n it was just me n the two girls. They didn't say anything to me, got up and left and I was out in the back by myself. I shut down at that point. I came inside and then closed my door in my room. That was the last time that I would see those people. I went out of my way to avoid them.