Going to church to meet people

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Anyone here do this? I think I am going to start. I haven't gone to church regularly since I was about 13, but I went last night and noticed there were some hot girls there.

Church was definitely a pillar of my better development, despite the fact that I am currently questioning the metaphysics of its

long held claims, going for the company is not always a bad idea.

OK, this sounds nice, but what does all this have to do with whether the beliefs are really true? Does that matter? Why?

It depends on the church whether you can meet people there.
In some churches people just say their prayers and leave without talking to anyone.
In other churches they have social time after the prayers,
and in that kind I have met and talked to friendly girls.

But I went to church for God. (mostly bible study)
One church was very friendly except for being very openly homophobic,
so I avoided their otherwise fun social events, (picnics, water sports, etc)
fearing that they might sense gay feelings and accuse me of sins.

They might be hot but you'll have to marry one first

I've thought about this. If that's the case I doubt I will have success because I doubt anyone wants to marry me (nor do I have the desire to marry anyone). I just want a solid girl who has some morals but doesn't feel the need to wait till marriage.

i used to be catholic and participated in a lot of the catholic social events in my city. there were a lot of nice, interesting people there, lots of attractive girls too, but i can't stand being around the church atmosphere anymore. i've considered doing it but i don't think i could do it for very long.

one thing to note is that not everyone there is perfect, not everyone there believes wholeheartedly, and not everyone there is waiting until marriage, regardless of what they say. some people just go there for the social events because they've got friends there and they enjoy the social events, so you might meet a girl who fits into that category.

There is a lot of repressed sexuality in many fundamentalist churches.

Sometimes the coffee is good, too!

I have a friend at uni who's a rather active Christian and last year he offered to take me to a church some time. I agreed, thinking "what harm can it do?".

Turns out it was the sort of church that preached with rock music at high volume. The loud noise caused me to have a panic attack and we had to leave.

Not funny at the time but for some reason thinking of it makes me chuckle.

Oh good grief not another person who thinks church is suppose to be used as a meat market. Do you know how many other guys, particularly AS guys, have already attempted what you are talking about? There's articles on the very subject. I visited a new church for a long time and had decided to join until this dufus AS guy I worked with overheard I was going there, then he stalked me and joined the same conversion class. I had to stop going to church to avoid sexual harrassment.

Look church is suppose to be about GOD and your relationship with GOD. It is not a meat market to chase girls with the hopes of getting laid. With the exception of course of Mormon churches where you probably could hook up because they are so big into marrying off all their girls.

Well said Ticker.
I used to go to a church and the people are still pretty friendly with me.
It's good for socialization, but if you want to pick up chicks go to a bar or club.

Or, if you want a quiet, peaceful place to meet girls, try yoga. Just try not to stare, too much.

The reason I don't attend church is because I just don't have the time because of studying.

Plus I'm Lutheran, and I am a big minority in a state that's half-Catholic, half-Baptist.

Sadly, most people my age who are Christians prefer the megachurches, and those are just too wild for me.

Real relationships don't start from drunken whores met at bars. If a guy really wants to find a nice lady join a hobby group (that interests both women and men), go to martial arts or yoga classes, meditation groups, take a class at the college or borrow a friend's cute dog and take for a walk in the park or beach. Having a dog along is a good way to have women come up to you who would otherwise ignore you. Its an old trick.

The trick to meeting women is to actually go out and have a life. Do things. But do things that attract someone other than just Aspie males. Like you probably won't find your soulmate at a electric train hobbiest meeting. It all depends on where you live too. A lot of the younger college towns have popular coffee shops to meet people and like at our university they have free movie nights that attract the nerdy girl types. Keep your eye on the newspaper for events like Celtic festivals, Sci-Fi conventions, OctoberFests and so forth but keep in mind once you get there you have to approach and talk to people.

PS: Gyms with swimming pools are also good places to meet. I've made several friends in my water aerobics class.

so all girls who go to bars are drunken whores? although it's not the ideal setting for meeting girls with whom you'd like to start a relationship (especially for aspies) there are people who meet their future wives and husbands there and there are some very nice girls who go to bars.

If you were a man you'd know that bars and clubs are terrible places to pick up chicks, especially for AS guys...