Are friendships temporary?

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That's the sad pattern of my life. I make friends, then 3 or so years down the line we begin to drift apart, then hardly see eachother. I only actually have one friend that I've kept for a long time now. The others seem transient. Is that just life?

That's been the pattern of my life too. It's finally got to a point where I don't want to even try to make friends again. I'm currently on "friendly terms" with a couple of people from the local choir, music group, but I don't see it ever becoming any closer than just a weekly greeting at the meeting.

I hope it's not always going to be this way, but deep down I know it will be.

Yep, all good things have to come to an end. That's why I love material things, at least when they have problems I don't have to say "f*** you, you lied to/betrayed me" just gotta spend a little money and good as new.

Some are. My pattern seems to be find friend, tire of friend, or friend tire of me, then move on. I guess that's the way of things. Nothing is permanent. Don't worry about the duration of the friendship, focus on enjoying it to it's maximum while it is in effect.

Eh being a material person is and isn't all it's cracked up to be. Nothing is ever good enough for me.

People tell me that friendships take work, from both sides.

There are a few friends I have which even though we only meet once or twice a year it's almost as if we'd never been apart.

On the whole I think casual friendships are very temporary things whilst it is convenient for both people to be friends, but there is the occaisional person where it becomes more than just that and where if both people make the effort then friendship can be continued on for years, even if you rarely get to see each other.

If a friendship is work, its not friendship - its a business arrangement, like marriage. That's why romantics who marry for love alone, end up alone. They don't fully understand the nature of the relationship has to involve more than just smooching and spooning.

All things are transient, including friendships, because people change and evolve over time, rarely in exactly the same directions. Accept the gifts a friendship offers you while you have it and be content to move on when your paths take separate forks. You can continue to be on good terms with a person and value them, long after you've ceased to hang out and run around with them all the time, but they aren't pets you can collar and keep.

actually everything is temporary.
3 years isn't a great number, but it's better than 0 years.
hopefully someday soon you'll break the pattern though and make it as far as 6 years, or even 18