Do you rationalise loneliness?

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I am having difficulty explaining this so I'll try to make it as clear as I can. I've not had a friend outside of school for years and now I think I prefer being alone than I do being with others. However, I am unsure if I simply convinced myself (rationalised) that I prefer being alone or if I prefer being with others who I know.

So I'm just wondering, does anyone else do this or feel like this?

I've never been one to get lonely, I really have a hard time grasping the concept. If I have a friend, which I haven't had for many years now, I can enjoy socializing for periods of time - provided we have enough personal interests in common to keep a conversation going. Alcohol helps.

But I never pine for it, and solitude alone is not enough to make me feel depressed, although being forced to spend time around a person or persons I don't want to be with can. Wrong Planet is more than enough socializing for me most days.

I guess the closest I came to feeling lonely would have been as a teen, when I was convinced romance would turn my life into Disneyland. Boy, was that a misconception. I'll take solitude, thanks.

I prefer being by myself than an overly long, awkward, "blind date" type of situation.

I don't always know how to distinguish boredom from loneliness. Whatever it is, just being around people doesn't really cure it. Usually what I really need is stimulation and internet and television just don't quite cut it for me.

I think the real reason I need other people is that I don't have enough motivation to do much of anything new on my own. If I don't have someone to go with I'd rarely go out of the house and get overly depressed. I just have a really hard time getting into anything without someone else dragging my ass to do something.