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I recently made friends with some other girls in the neighborhood. They are several years younger than me, which many of my friends are. One "friend" is really boy crazy and constantly wants to use my phone to call and text any boy whether he will respond or not. She uses everyone for their phones, trips, if they know any boys, etc. It gets annoying when every 2 minutes she wants to use it, but I give in because 1) I have unlimited text 2) it seems a kindly thing to do 3) I am expecting her to give me something since I let her use my phone. What bothers my mom is that I try to negotiate with her and pretty much say if she will give me old clothes she doesn't want, (I collect cool clothes) I'm perfectly fine with letting her use it ALL the time. Also that she will ask her older sister if she will give me her old dolls (I also collect dolls) My mom doesn't like it and thinks it's unfair, but I'm thinking 1) She doesn't want this old stuff 2) It is fair because I am exchanging with her the use of services of my phone. There are times I let her use it for free, but I don't like that she sets me up and acts like I'm being mean when sometimes I don't want her to use it.That's when I usually say"Well, if you give me.." I don't like others handling it while we're walking in the road, because I don't want them to accidentally drop it. My mom thinks she's not a good friend but I'm thinking if she can give me what I want, then I'll give her what she wants.

I don't want you to think that I don't care about other people's feelings. I do, i just think what I do is fair.

I think so too.
But beware that lending her your phone, you're also letting know anybody your phone number.

Do you want to be bothered by some random guy you don't even know who could get angry with her - for any reasons?

I would be careful on that matter.

Well, it's fair for sure. But be cautious about the deals you made with her. I've had 'friends' that have tried pulling off some stupid crap over my head because they promised something in return for my generosity. And girl who you just described can get you into trouble, how old is this girl? Do you know what kind of guys she talks to? Just wondering because I had a friend who was like that, and she would borrow my phone to contact random guys from myspace.com and they would call my phone later be all creepy and I had to change my phone number because of that. Not saying she's probably doing that, but that stuff happens.

these are lil 13 or 14 year old guys. And they find her to be extremely annoying, for her personality is resented by many people here because when I go somewhere with her they act that they don't like her I guess because she can be obnoxious at times. But anyway, they only text me if I send them a picture mail. I got a forward once, but I'm lucky she doesn't know many guys and would ask me for guy's #s ( I really don't have that many either )

I try to see what she texts, so it isn't really angering to the person who gets it, and once she gives me the clothes and dolls I might "forget" to bring my phone or it might "need to charge for a while" and we'll see if she wants to be my friend, or my phone's friend.

thanks for the advice - I ask others because I know I don't always pick the best decisions.

The two of you are definitely not friends. You are charging her for the use of your cell phone which costs you nothing. You have a business relationship and nothing more. Eventually, she will get her own phone and stop wanting anything to do with you. Suggest she uses email or phone to talk to her boyfriends.