Friendship = Magic Medicine?

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So long story short, I was depressed and as a result I lost all interest in everything. Now that's I am no longer depressed, I still got no zeal for life. According to my parents and therapist, having friends would cure me. Is it true? I'm not lonely and I have no social intuition and/or skills.

It helps.

And if they're good friends, it can help a lot.
Make the difference between dull life and a good one, pleasant to live.

Loneliness is a killer for most people. Probably worse than drinking and smoking for your health

Having friends fixes nothing. It just allows people into your life who will hurt and betray you.

NTs need friends. An Aspie may not.

You might explore your world to see if anything interests you--perhaps go to some museums or visit some nearby tourist attractions? Perhaps watch a few sporting events?

There's no magic medicine. I find good friends to be valuable. Being a good friend can be hard work, and it can be difficult for us to learn how to be one.

May you be happy.

It could be - if you have a desire for companionship (even if it's supressed) it might be the road to a happier life - granted you surround yourself with true friends who share your interests. For me the 'magic' medicine is cipralex - it does moderate my depression, something friends never could. Friends may cheer you up, but they'll also be a pain in the ass - and believe me when I say this: some people aren't made for friendship. I've never desired friends - though I've had them, all my 'friendships' have been fairly one-sided, and I simply had friends to avoid being seen as a social outcast. Give it a try, if having friends isn't your thing then focus on interests that make you happy/occupied - but don't turn into a hermit and do pratice your social skills (they may come in handy)

If it's a positive friendship, I'm sure you would feel at least a little happier. But a toxic friendship ala Mean Girls I assume would only make things worse. I had toxic people around me in high school that hated my Aspie ways and were constantly harassing me, and I cannot tell you how much peace of mind I got after cutting off all contact and being a loner. So don't think just making friends is some miracle cure...