Informing a neighbor that I have Asperger's Syndrome

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I have a neurotypical neighbor who is close to my age but I do not connect with her like in the past in so many other cases. I have tried inviting her to a few get-togethers, and she has told me that she was going to come. However, when it has boiled down to it she doesn't show up or even tell me the day of the event. She often leaves excuses that she wasn't feeling good on my facebook messenger.

I am also mildly withdrawn from her and I also do weird things like play with a neighborhood stray or sometimes open up a door and then close it again if I see her outside and it's not that I am scared of her. I just have a thing for looking like I am sneaking around when I am really not.

How should I tell her that I have Asperger's Syndrome and sometimes I do things that are a little off?

It sounds like she is really not interested...so, don't waste your time on trying to becomes "friends."
There are plenty of other people around that are more worthy of your friendship...try and get out to meet them. Do some volunteer time in your community...at an animal shelter, a local hospital, a youth center or some place else that interests you.

Are you sure you want/need to tell her?

I usually don't talk to my neighbors. The only reason I have started talking to one of them is because my boyfriend's dog is the same kind as hers and sometimes if we're both outside at the same time the dogs play together. I don't think there's a rule that says you have to talk to your neighbors.

If you are hoping for a specific outcome from telling her, just make sure you are prepared for all her possible reactions to it, up to and including complete rejection... and just tell her the next time you see her. Then ask her if she wants more information about it. Good luck!

Thanks for reminding me that one and she isn't interested that's for sure. For instance, I took the hint another time when I was inside my unit studying when she came and knocked on my door. I answered it in my PJs and it turned out that she wanted me to take some pictures of her. So I put on my coat and slippers only to find that I wandered into unit only to discover that she wanted me to take some pictures of she and her hot sorority sisters throwing a Valentine's day party. I was not invited and so I just took the photos and left.

Whoa! That sucks. I suggest you just keep sneaking around on her to freak her out.

XD, just now I came back from getting the mail and taking out the trash and I had my ipod on and at full blast and I didn't even say hello. I figured if she is going to feel that way about me and then turn her nose up and act like that she just isn't worth my time.

Good for you!

If that was me and she came to the door, I would have opened it, and with the request to take pics with her sorority sisters present, I would have said NO, BUENAS NOCHES, then shut the door.That is a few precious seconds wasted doing something for someone who only wants to use you..