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I am starting sixth form college in September and I am going by myself with no one else I know. I have no idea how to make or keep friends or how to know if someone is wanting to be friends with me. I am scared that I will not be able to make any friends and be alone for the two years I am there for. Anyone with advice please help me!
I am a 17 year old girl with Asperger's from south east England.

I am older than you but I faced some crisis in making and keeping friends in my teenage years. Maybe, first you should observe people in college instead of trying hard/ hurrying up to make friends. Observe among many boys and girls, those who are your types, or those who are kind and polite or have similar interests-look for these qualities. Then maybe approach them, ask them whether they would like to have tea/coffee in the cafe with you. Keep trying, somebody may agree and you can start from there.

Thanks! I will try that come September. Do you have any other advice for an aspie teenage girl when it comes to navigating a strange world?

If your campus provides it, see if you can't get some help from special needs/disabilities services. My school does offer social interaction training for applicants; this will no doubt come in handy as you ply your way through college life.

You can also check available clubs on campus, and join whatever interests you most. It's a lot easier to start conversations with other people if you all like the same thing.

Ahh yeah I am registered with the sen department so I shall ask them if they do any social skills training. I am going to register for the sports clubs as I am very into sport but in past experience the sports clubs tends to be full of the 'popular people' who I find very intimidating. Have you had any experience of any clubs that would more welcoming?

I personally have not, preferring to keep my own company much of the time. Perhaps someone else might be able to cover you here.

If the sports crowd is a little intimidating, you can find different clubs based on your other interests (writing? philosophy? film or politics?), or associate yourself with those particular departments. Many professors - at least in the States - often have office hours, and if you like some of them, you can always drop by for a brief chat.

Thanks I will keep that in mind. How did you navigate college life?