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As others have said focus on studies but when I have 2-4hr. (before/after classes) waiting on the bus (I get there 2-3hrs. before class starts and have upwards 2hr. AFTER class to wait on the bus) So I have TONS of free time on this HUGE campus. Where do I start? Library? Computer Lab? (I would hope/think I could charge my laptop here not sure) but do you want to become predictable (that girl who is always in the lab/library at X time? I could do the be myself thing but right now I'm not confident enough to do that right now. Hell I might run into a bathroom stall and have a crying meltdown I'm scared to death!! !! Any advice would be appreciated.

Practice smiling. Smile as much as you can, whenever you remember. People seem to like this and they feel like they can talk to you, and so you will meet people that way. If your natural expression is anything like mine (apparently I look unapproachable/sad/zoned out) it is apparently a warning flag that says "stay away". At first you might have to fake a "happy" expression (practice in the mirror... we're going for slightly amused, not maniacal grin), but once you've got that down you can just keep reminding yourself to do it. You can do it as you are walking along or sitting someone, not just when you look at people. When I remember do to this, people react a lot better and tend to smile back and sometimes start conversations.

I made friends by joining clubs. Go with an interest or passion that you have and try to find a group of people who share that same interest with you. I lucked out with anime club at my college b/c I like some animes/mangas & this group was very laid back and easy to talk with.

Read a good book. Smile if people say hello and answer their questions if they ask any. You may be know as the 'girl in the library' but at least it won't be for any bad reason.

Making friends for me, a mile (3 out of 10) aspie is impossible.
The social skill of making one on my end is hard.
On the other end, people pick up something (loneliness) and avoid you OR those who do stick around take complete advantage of you and make it seem like you owe THEM for putting up with you.
Just me, a 26 year olds, lifelong results.