lost a friend

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Ok this is kind of complicated so let me explain. I had a friend from the Nether Lands I knew from Facebook (she has AS also). We were friends for a while but then she quit Facebook for a long time so we talked by email. Then one day she came back to FB and sent me a message but was gone from FB the next day (??) So I sent an email and she never respond and then when I got my Driver's License I tried to email her but her email address had been deleted! So I called and left a message but she never responded. So I called some more time but no answer until one day she (not 100% sure it was her) answered and yelled "stop calling me, as*hole (! !! !! !! !!)" So I don't know what to do (obviously I shouldn't call anymore but I still am sad and bewildered)

Don't let it change who you are. Just keep on being yourself, and enjoying the things you enjoy.

Somebody from a certain web community dropped me as a friend, in a very hurtful way. I got so angry at him and the world, that I've turned against the very things that I stand for, for three years. I forgave him and found interest in the things that I stand for, last September, once again. I can't really give you any more advice.

Forget it.

My experience in these situations is to forget it and move on. She'll come back when she has her space cleared up and that's when you'll have the opportunity to be friends again.

Though, it seems you're doing something else that you're not explaining that may be contributing to the deterioration of your relationship. Do you want to elaborate on the content of the messages you've sent her?

Well, quite simply, you've done or said something unintentionally to put her off. I know as someone with AS just how easy it is to be put off by something that someone says causally and with out intent. You're probably best off to give it time and to look back and examine your exchanges to see where you might have caused an issue. Odds are pretty good that you probably still won't find a cause. I never seem to be able to find what I did wrong until years later.

But the best thing to do, give it time.

part of me wonders if it was someone else that answered the phone. Seems strange she would be so mean (last time we talked it was on good terms)