I don't want friends.

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Is it okay to not want friends? Do you want friends?

I don't want friends that require a lot of social upkeep. I like the kind you can see every couple of weeks or months or even years

who you can pick up where you left off the last time you saw them.

Those are the best.

I know I have a hard time keeping up with people and I am largely unable to be the type of friend others expect a person to be. I agree with Aimless... a lot of social upkeep is not ideal and the best relationships are ones that you can just pick up every so often and it is okay. People really overwhelm me, especially in day to day life. The internet is easier for me as I can pace myself and deal with people when I am able to and in levels that are comfortable to me. It's like I can be alone, but still get to see and digest the thoughts of others and share my own thoughts without having to physically deal with any of them. I do not want anymore friends as I cannot keep up well with the ones I have now, but I do value the ones that I have and I know that when I can deal with them I enjoy them and appreciate them for who they are. I'm funny with people though. I am like a cat. Mostly I want to be left alone to do my thing, but sometimes I want attention and will jump in someone's face when they are busy doing something and make noise until they pay attention to me and then I run away and go sleep somewhere.

If not having friends is your thing, who is anyone else to place a value judgment on it? They important thing is if the lack of friends causes you to be unhappy.

I dont need that many friends. I just need alot of alone time and I dont care what my dad says about it anymore.

I could not ask for a better companion than myself. I have no other friends and I am content with that.

I don't mind hearing people's problems or trying to help out but it's very tiring to have to put on a front for people just so they can not think I'm totally out of my mind. I like being a dork and I like being me but it seems like I can't find good friends who understand me so I gave up. I had so many friends before but slowly I started to push them away because I just would rather be alone and do what I need to do. Relationships are stressful no matter the type and I have too much going on in my life to really put effort into a friendship (although I wouldn't be closed to one). Being alone is very relaxing, we can just do what we want, when we want, without needing other people to agree with our ideas (like agreeing what to eat or where to go or what to do). I'm content being with family and my dog a lot. How about you guys? Can you go into more detail why you like being alone?

You can totally be yourself. You do what you want, when you want, without having to stop and explain yourself to anyone else or see if they're interested.

But it's nice to be around people too sometimes. If anything, hanging out with other people helps you appreciate solitude.

I like to alone because it is quiet, it gives me time to go in my head and think, hit my internal reset button, replay the day or think about the next day... sometimes I just zone out. I need a lot of alone time to be alright.

I think it's okay not to want friends. Friendship is stressful. I like a lot of things about having friends, but ultimately I'm more comfortable being by myself. I've never had many friends, and I don't want more than a few.