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01 Nov 2010, 7:16 pm

In my friendship how can I really get my friends to like me more. Basicly any nice things I could do for my friends to earn respect form them?

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01 Nov 2010, 7:32 pm

The problem most aspies have is that in fact they are TOO NICE. People don't like a push-over, and now that I've learned how to be a little more "hard-assed" I make more friends.

http://www.theenhancelife.com/2008/10/p ... -nice.html

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01 Nov 2010, 8:27 pm

Darkmysticdream wrote:

I was going to say, don't be so nice.

But then maybe they just need to be more sociable. It's hard to say where the problem actually lies.

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01 Nov 2010, 10:04 pm

I am a pushover when it comes to my friends. I am scared of not doing certain things and losing them as a friend. Being I have so few of them it'd be quite devastating to lose one out of the two I have.

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01 Nov 2010, 10:08 pm

Desperation is never attractive. Having a healthy sense of apathy is essential.

Try reading the book Assholeology. Its a good explanation of behavioral hierarchy and how most guys work and form friendships, although its quite sarcastic at times (just be warned its not all literal)

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01 Nov 2010, 10:12 pm

Darkmysticdream wrote:

Definition of "hard-assed" plz

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01 Nov 2010, 10:15 pm

"Hard-assed"

Generally meaning that I am more willing to voice my opinion and learned how to have people disagree with me without me taking it personally.

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01 Nov 2010, 10:16 pm

Darkmysticdream wrote:

"Hard-assed"

Generally meaning that I am more willing to voice my opinion and learned how to have people disagree with me without me taking it personally.

Ah, ty

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