Okay so here's the deal...I have very few friends...I would say around 10. None of them a girl, not even an aquintence. Basically most of my friends are awkward like me around girls with the exception of a couple who are awesome with them...
Think of me like Carlton from "Fresh Prince" and I want to become more like Will in terms of the ladies...I have just never had a friend that's a girl because I never had any confidence after being bullied all through high school. I never went to the prom/ball, never really became friendly with a girl. I mean I could talk about school stuff and maybe a few little things but trying to ask a girl out never happened...
I felt and still feel incapable of this type of interaction with girls, I never take a shot and possibly missed a few oppourtunities at college, one in particular that when I think about it makes my mind boggle that I didn't even ask for the girls number...
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Basically me and 3 other friends had classes on the same day and breaks at the same time where we would play foosball...after a couple days people started to play including this 1 girl who continued to come back and then we found out had breaks the same time as us...So I asked about classes, we got semi-personal and she was a friend among us playing foosball, cards, chatting about life and stuff and becoming a good "friend."
Well this continued the whole semester and although my friends and I spent a bunch of time with her, I never asked for her number...hell I still don't even know her last name. On the last day of classes I invited her to come with us to go to a chinese buffet, one where me and my other friends often went to and she willingly came skipping part of her last culinary class, she was in my car for god sakes and laughed at me and my friends jokes and attitudes while eating...and then we came back and decided to play foosball a little bit for one last time...She said any minute that her mom would call and she would leave since her mom was her ride and for some inexplicable reason I never asked for her number and that was it...last time I will see her
I'm not overly upset about the girl I mean she would of been a very nice friend to have...I'm trying to work on this so I can get in relationships but I need to conquer Step 1 before I proceed.
So basically I'm trying to avoid something like this to happen again...since I don't have any real idea how interacting with girls works, pretend I've been in a coma since I was 11 and have no idea what interaction is as I didn't learn anything in my teens years...what advice would you give for starting from scratch and continuing on to one day conquering my issue
*This applies to everyone as well, primarily females cause I have no comfort level where as males at least somewhat of one
Thanks for your help
21 Jan 2011, 2:24 am
