When is the time to tell a lady-friend you "Like"

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I've made a couple of female friends (who both have AS) who are interested in socialising with me. I've realised I find them both attractive, though I'm still defining it (wether it's romantic, physical, etc). I believe that if we are friends I have a responsibility to be honest about this. But I don't want to make them uncomfortable.

Both have implied they are only interested in being friends. I think both have recently ended relationships that turned unpleasant for them. This is why I am concerned they may become uncomfortable If I am honest with them.

I respect what they want, and I am content being friends (I enjoy their company and giving/receiving attention as friends). As I said before, I believe as friends I have a responsibility of honesty with them.

Well, just because you think something doesn't mean you have to say it. 100% honesty is no better than 100% lying. Extremes aren't good. If you wish to tell them, go ahead and do it. But before you do, make sure you know what you mean by "attractive". I've told female friends they are hot as blazes, and left it at that. It wasn't really awkward, because if someone is hot, they usually are smart enough to realize it. Some friends I've told that talking to them is really fun because I don't have to sugarcoat anything, and it's all OK, no matter how zany I am. I told one girl she was about as attractive as a rusty pole covered in s**t. It didn't go over too well, obviously.