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iwannabeadragon
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07 Jan 2011, 11:40 am

I don't have friends. I know a lot of people say that, but they do have a few friends. I don't. I haven't left my house in 10 days because I'm scared of going outside, and not because I'm scared of anything, or for any particular reason. It's just an irrational fear.

I did have friends at one point. Or, maybe they weren't friends. I could never really talk to them, and whenever I did, it feels like they would just heckle me.Just be like "heh, yeah... You're weird." But at least I left my house. I started getting panic attacks at school so I eventually started taking my classes online. Now I don't have contact with anyone outside my family and the Internet. I don't even leave my room enough to talk to my family.

I guess I'm just lonely.


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07 Jan 2011, 11:58 am

You are 17. I am 34 and haven't had a "friend" in 17 years. It's not as important as it feels right now. They are highly over-rated.



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09 Jan 2011, 11:20 pm

First question, do you WANT friends? Because if the answer is no, it is the easiest thing in the world to not make friends (NTs may disagree with this, but that is how I feel).

If the answer is yes, see if you have an aspie group nearby. Also, find opportunities to meet new people in groups that are catered to adults, since they are less likely to bully you (I hope they are more mature). You're turning 18 at your next birthday, so it won't be weird to join groups that are for adults in general. Again, this will only work if you WANT to meet new people and make friends.



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09 Jan 2011, 11:40 pm

i can sort of relate, i have not had a friend (a real friend or a "friend") in 10 years


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10 Jan 2011, 2:35 am

If you are unable to leave the house, it's pretty much impossible to make new friends. Would you say you're agoraphobic? I don't know enough about it. I would seek help professional help to work on your anxiety if you are wanting to be able to leave the house and meet new people. I have a lot of health problems, and there was a long period where I was stuck in my house (in bed) for a long time and it got really lonely. I considered the people that came to visit me to be my real friends. But I couldn't really do anything until I got better...leaving the house was out of my power until then. You're in a similar situation.


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10 Jan 2011, 9:12 am

jc6chan wrote:
First question, do you WANT friends? Because if the answer is no, it is the easiest thing in the world to not make friends (NTs may disagree with this, but that is how I feel).

If the answer is yes, see if you have an aspie group nearby. Also, find opportunities to meet new people in groups that are catered to adults, since they are less likely to bully you (I hope they are more mature). You're turning 18 at your next birthday, so it won't be weird to join groups that are for adults in general. Again, this will only work if you WANT to meet new people and make friends.


Well, I convinced myself that I wanted friends because people kept telling me that I needed them but I don't really want to.


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10 Jan 2011, 9:14 am

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If you are unable to leave the house, it's pretty much impossible to make new friends. Would you say you're agoraphobic? I don't know enough about it. I would seek help professional help to work on your anxiety if you are wanting to be able to leave the house and meet new people. I have a lot of health problems, and there was a long period where I was stuck in my house (in bed) for a long time and it got really lonely. I considered the people that came to visit me to be my real friends. But I couldn't really do anything until I got better...leaving the house was out of my power until then. You're in a similar situation.


I am agoraphobic. Every few days I go and walk down the back lane but it always ends in a panic attack. So I guess yeah, it's out of my power.


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10 Jan 2011, 11:38 am

iwannabeadragon wrote:
Well, I convinced myself that I wanted friends because people kept telling me that I needed them but I don't really want to.

Then that's that, if you don't want friends then you don't have to look for any. Despite what people might say no one needs friends, having a few can be advantageous in some situations but it's up to you to decide whether those few times are worth the effort it takes to aquire and maintain (a) friendship(s).



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10 Jan 2011, 12:54 pm

Lecks wrote:
iwannabeadragon wrote:
Well, I convinced myself that I wanted friends because people kept telling me that I needed them but I don't really want to.

Then that's that, if you don't want friends then you don't have to look for any. Despite what people might say no one needs friends,


i would disagree with that.


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10 Jan 2011, 1:31 pm

Titangeek wrote:
Lecks wrote:
iwannabeadragon wrote:
Well, I convinced myself that I wanted friends because people kept telling me that I needed them but I don't really want to.

Then that's that, if you don't want friends then you don't have to look for any. Despite what people might say no one needs friends,


i would disagree with that.

Would you agree if I rephrased that to: not everyone needs friends?



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10 Jan 2011, 1:48 pm

I didn't want friends as a kid. I just wanted someone to lecture to about my special intrests and to lord over. My bearded dragon is my best friend.


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10 Jan 2011, 2:16 pm

Lecks wrote:
Titangeek wrote:
Lecks wrote:
iwannabeadragon wrote:
Well, I convinced myself that I wanted friends because people kept telling me that I needed them but I don't really want to.

Then that's that, if you don't want friends then you don't have to look for any. Despite what people might say no one needs friends,


i would disagree with that.

Would you agree if I rephrased that to: not everyone needs friends?


that i have no problem with.


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